My 8yr old daughter went off this morning crying, fighting with her sister, threatening everyone and everything. I know it is because he is gone, off work and not home and she had to go to daycare. I just calmly told her that she is angry at the wrong people and to use what her therapist told her to do when she feels this way. Just not a fun life right now...
I also just called my attorney's office and asked what the next step is regarding this process. I was told that if I am ready to do a proposal then I need to have all my ducks in a row such as what I want visitation wise, vehicle, household goods, custody, money, etc. WTF!! I am not an attorney!! I have no idea and am feeling 110% overwhelmed and out of control. Period.
Think about what you'd like out of a divorce. Start with the big ones, like custody, house, child support and spousal support. There should be guidelines for your state related to all these things. Your lawyer is probably trying to save you some money by having you bang all this together beforehand.
The L will, or should, provide guidance as to the amounts of child and spousal support you can expect (if any), and other details about property, etc.
Focusing on this now will help you detach from him, and that's a good thing. Look after those kids too, and spend extra time with them. It'll make you and them feel better.
DDay - June 2014
DD 2008 & 2011
Divorced April 1, 2015
You can figure out what you want. The rest of us did, so you can, too. It is piddly, it will trigger you like mad, but you can do it. Just one step at a time, okay? Pick one thing to figure out and stop when you're done with that one thing.
So my asshat and his whore are off on a romantic getaway 'fun' because he is so stressed out with the divorce and kids. Seriously?? He is stressed out?? I don't think he knows the meaning of stress.
Its so damn typical...
Nothing personal to WSs looking in but good greif, wtf! Such entitled children! Sickening
His walking away -- running, more like -- has nothing to do with you and everything to do with *his* brokenness.
Keep taking care of things and know that it will pay off when you are the one your kids know they can rely on. Do you have friends and family for support with logistics and just as shoulders to cry on?
It's not fair, but one day it will be behind you and you'll have a happier life.
You can do this. You will find strength you didn't know you had. Living well is the best revenge. It's true.