Before this week, in the last month, I have probably seen STBX once. This week I have seen or heard from him everyday! Trying to keep NC is difficult when he's inserting himself into everyday.
Now, much of what he has been around for this week has been "rescuer" focused, and I am thankful for his help. DD19 was in a minor fender bender last Thursday (she's fine) and needed help with her vehicle. So communicated with STBX Thursday regarding accident (DD19 and I signed divorce paperwork this day), he came over Friday to pick up DD19 to move her car(needed repair, and STBX signed paperwork this day) he came over Sat. to take kids rafting(we met and signed final item this day), Sunday he came to pick up some of his stuff, Monday he called(went to vmail) to say DD19 car is in the shop, Tuesday he called to talk with DS15 and asked him to give me the phone, "just checking to see if you tried to call me, my phone is shut off, couldn't pay the bill." Me, "Umm, no, why would I call you?" Wednesday, he comes to the house! He wants to ask, "when I take care of DD19s dogs, (while the whole family is out of town) can I stay at the house?" He , of course, asks in front of the kids, so now I am the bad guy for saying "No"!
Ok, I know in the grand scheme of things, these are minor irritations. But, they're MY irritations. Why, the heck, must I see or hear from you every day following filing our final divorce paperwork, that I never wanted to file in the first place? I have come to acceptance, but, really!? Ugh!
[This message edited by Riskybusiness at 10:29 AM, August 7th (Thursday)]
Him-no longer matters
Married 22 years
Two DD-adults. DS-17, DD-14
Rejoice in hope, persevere in tribulation, be devoted to prayer. Romans 12:12