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 deena04 (original poster member #41741) posted at 1:58 AM on Friday, August 8th, 2014

How many have or have not let the WS in the room during delivery? I don't think I will let him. He lost that right in my opinion. Granted, we are a ways off, but I will be more comfortable without him in there. Has anyone else restricted WS after finding out and having a baby?

Me FBS 40s, Him XWS older than me (lovemywife4ever), D, He cheated before M, forgot to tell me. I’m free and loving life.

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imagoodwitch ( member #23375) posted at 3:21 AM on Friday, August 8th, 2014

We have a member who just recently went through this.

If I can find it I will bump it, I think she decided on not having him there.

*the thread is in JFO, no update on the baby or if her WS was in the delivery room.

I think in light of the circumstances you have every right not to have him there.

It's such an emotional time.

I think in Greece or another European country, it is a custom to throw shoes at the father during labor.

I wanted to do that with my first labor and delivery

[This message edited by imagoodwitch at 9:28 PM, August 7th (Thursday)]

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HFSSC ( member #33338) posted at 3:44 AM on Friday, August 8th, 2014

When I was in nursing school we did a unit on other cultures and childbirth rituals. There was apparently a Native American tribe with a ritual I thought was awesome: The father was suspended over the mother with leather cords tied around his scrotum, with the ends in the mother's hands. She could pull on them with each contraction and allow him to share the pain.

That would have appealed to me greatly.

Me, 56
Him, 48 (JMSSC)
Married 26 years. Reconciled.

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 deena04 (original poster member #41741) posted at 4:28 AM on Friday, August 8th, 2014

Hmmm...throwing shoes, suspending by the scrotum...love it! It made me laugh imagining those things in my case.

Me FBS 40s, Him XWS older than me (lovemywife4ever), D, He cheated before M, forgot to tell me. I’m free and loving life.

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tryingmybest2011 ( member #32584) posted at 5:16 AM on Friday, August 8th, 2014

I opted not to have WS in the delivery room last spring, when we had DD2. I asked my mother to be there instead, and WS looked after DD1, along with my father.

I felt much more comfortable without him there - I feel very self-conscious around him now, and didn't really want to have to filter anything or feel embarrassed.

He came in afterwards, at the same time as DD1 and my dad, so it wasn't that awkward. I don't even think he realized I didn't want him there. I imagine he views it as a mutual decision. It helped my case that he was "sick" from stress following DD1s birth.

Sorry you are faced with this type of decision.

BS: me - 42
WH: him - 42
DD: 12
DD: 5

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DD#1: 12/12/10 - LTA of 3 years, 2 mos.
DD#2: 02/02/11 - 2 EA/PA with coworkers, a month after the LTA was ended (by OW).

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Ostrich80 ( member #34827) posted at 8:53 AM on Friday, August 8th, 2014

Do what makes you most comfortable Deena. It's not like he can't see the baby after its born but labor requires total concentration as you know...no distractions or stress.

Man I really like that scrotum idea...makes me want to have another baby just to yank those leather cords

[This message edited by Ostrich80 at 2:54 AM, August 8th (Friday)]

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