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 TattoodChinaDoll (original poster member #34602) posted at 6:18 AM on Friday, August 8th, 2014

So I have this grey streak that I'm really not sure what I feel about it. The lazy part of me doesn't give a damn and doesn't want to deal with the upkeep. I have long, thick, curly hair. I would have to go somewhere to get it done. Sometimes I think it looks cool. Sometimes I think it looks utterly ridiculous on a 32 year old. Sometimes I think, "well, Rogue from X-Men has a white streak...so I'm like a super hero." Other times I think, "that's how they distinguish the old motherly types in movies. Like the mom in Brave." I also think, "evil villains usually have grey steaks...like Dr. Blight from Captain Planet." So what should I do?

[This message edited by TattoodChinaDoll at 12:20 AM, August 8th (Friday)]

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Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 6:31 AM on Friday, August 8th, 2014

Are you thinking dye it to match your hair, or dye it something fun like pink?

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 TattoodChinaDoll (original poster member #34602) posted at 6:34 AM on Friday, August 8th, 2014

To match my hair. I would love to do those peek-a-boo highlights in a different color but that whole lazy thing gets in the way. That upkeep would be even more work!

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WH: 37 TimeToManUp
Married: 14 years, together 19 years
3 daughters: 12, 8, 6, and 2 angel babies (2013 and 2014)

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musiclovingmom ( member #38207) posted at 7:29 AM on Friday, August 8th, 2014

I went to school with a girl with a streak. Hers was caused by a lack of pigment. She couldn't dye it. I always thought it made her unique. Even as adults, when I see her I don't think it makes her look old. And, because I know her and why she has hers, whenever I see someone with a streak I always wonder if that is why.

For the record, I think you look beautiful, young and vibrant.

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 TattoodChinaDoll (original poster member #34602) posted at 7:37 AM on Friday, August 8th, 2014

Thank you. But I think this is all from stress. I started going grey when I started teaching. You'd think being a music teacher would be pretty low stress...but not when it's middle school! A few years into teaching I called my mom and asked her when she went grey (so I was mid twenties) thinking maybe it was genetic. Until she told me in her forties! Needles to say, but the last 2 and half years have sucked the life and apparently hair color out of me.

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3 daughters: 12, 8, 6, and 2 angel babies (2013 and 2014)

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This is the most difficult thing I've ever done.

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HeartStings ( member #38017) posted at 2:57 PM on Friday, August 8th, 2014

I think it looks cool! Leave it alone.

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 TattoodChinaDoll (original poster member #34602) posted at 3:20 PM on Friday, August 8th, 2014

I do think I like it more than I dislike it. I think my major hang-up is being 32 and thinking I shouldn't have hair like this.

Me: 35
WH: 37 TimeToManUp
Married: 14 years, together 19 years
3 daughters: 12, 8, 6, and 2 angel babies (2013 and 2014)

D-Day: 12/21/2011
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This is the most difficult thing I've ever done.

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JanaGreen ( member #29341) posted at 3:35 PM on Friday, August 8th, 2014

I love it! Look at Stacey from What Not to Wear. I think the white streak is super cool:

Now I HATE my white hairs because they are scattered throughout the front of my hairline. Put them all together and suddenly they look super cool!

Also, you are very pretty!

[This message edited by JanaGreen at 9:35 AM, August 8th (Friday)]

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 TattoodChinaDoll (original poster member #34602) posted at 3:42 PM on Friday, August 8th, 2014

Thank you, Jana. I feel like a fraud, though. Haha! It's not a streak like that...just plain old gray hair. I think my laziness and cheapness will prevail. I won't want to keep up with covering the grays and it would cost too much.

Me: 35
WH: 37 TimeToManUp
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Rebreather ( member #30817) posted at 4:02 PM on Friday, August 8th, 2014

If it was me, I'd color it because I'm not a fan of grey on myself. But it IS a comittment!

I love Stacy's streak. If you could get it to look like that, that would be cool. Can you style it more to the side? I can't tell if it is a shorty bang length? Maybe grow it out and see how that looks?

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LydiaE ( member #42571) posted at 4:29 PM on Friday, August 8th, 2014

I have had a streak like that since I was eighteen--it is silver and very shiny. I used to dye my entire head of hair, but have developed an allergy to the chemicals in dyes over the last few years.

I started adding subtle highlights around the streak in a face-framing fashion, in a caramel shade. It looks really good and brightens the face. I do it at home and it is very easy!

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 TattoodChinaDoll (original poster member #34602) posted at 4:29 PM on Friday, August 8th, 2014

I don't have bangs but that piece is shorter hair right at the point of my widow's peak. I don't know if it's going to get any longer. It's usually over one side. When I took that picture my hair had been up. It's not always sticking straight up like that. Haha.

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InnerLight ( member #19946) posted at 4:57 PM on Friday, August 8th, 2014

TCD, you look beautiful and I don't think the grey streak detracts from that. If it were me I would leave it.

I am greyish throughout now and my original stylist (who was really great and did major celebrities) did highlights but left one grey streak near my face, it did look cool. My subsequent stylists I forget to tell them to leave that piece alone and they have highlighted it so it blends in more. I like the grey streak better.

Dying overall is a pain. You have to do it frequently or get The STripe. I do highlights to avoid The Stripe.

If I were you I would leave it alone.

Seriously, you are gorgeous.

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norabird ( member #42092) posted at 5:16 PM on Friday, August 8th, 2014

I like it

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FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 5:25 PM on Friday, August 8th, 2014

Been salt and peppah with a streak for years now. I don't miss the fuss and bother, and have had many compliments on how shiny and healthy my long hair is.

I think it makes you unique.

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tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 7:29 PM on Friday, August 8th, 2014

So it's kind of a rule of thumb that (I think...a friend of mine with dark curly hair told me this) that women with hair like yours tend to gray sooner than others. My roommate in college had gorgeous black curly hair, and she started graying in college, so under the age of 20.

That being said, I love it, and think that it's very cool looking. From personal experience I have found that my gray hair is quite different from regular hair, and it does NOT hold color AT ALL. I have paid lots of money to have it done, and I have done it at home, I have gone darker, I have gone lighter, always within a couple of weeks the color is off the gray, and not just at the root, but the entire length of it (not that mine is long, just a couple of inches). I gave up. Now I started graying in my early 30's, like 29 1/2. But I figure those are natures Mom Highlights. LOL.

You are a beautiful unique woman, and I think the streak is cool, and part of what makes you, TCD. So leave it be, and maybe during October (breast cancer awareness month) give it a bright pink treatment.

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Want2help ( member #20547) posted at 6:43 AM on Saturday, August 9th, 2014

I think you should DEFINITELY leave it.

I'm 31, and I have my hair done ash blonde (it's naturally "mousy brown"/"dishwater blonde") and I pay to have a white streak added in the front.

So not only do I think it's super cool, I think it looks very beautiful and distinguished on you.

And I'm a little envious of that streak.

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painpaingoaway ( member #27196) posted at 12:41 PM on Sunday, August 10th, 2014

TCD,

I love it, and I think you are gorgeous just the way you are.

However if you decide to dye it, please please be careful if you have tattoos.

Never dye your hair within 6 months before or after getting a new tattoo.

It is pretty rare, but, very strange allergic reactions (sometimes with deadly results) can occur. Most people do not have a clue about this, but it can happen. It happened to my BFF's sister.

I don't understand it, but it has something to do with the body not being able to tolerate too much dye within a short span of time.


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 TattoodChinaDoll (original poster member #34602) posted at 2:51 PM on Sunday, August 10th, 2014

PPGA - I've never heard about that. Funny you mention it though because I had plans to go to a shop today to talk to an artist about my next pieces. I used to dye my hair regularly so at some point I must have dyed my hair and got tattoos. Maybe that explains what's wrong with me.

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meaniemouse ( member #10798) posted at 3:04 PM on Sunday, August 10th, 2014

I think you are beautiful and the white streak is unique and very cool. Plus, people are not going to be focusing on the streak because you are positively stunning and I'm sure are 100% awesome just the way you are.

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