Well, I am just about 2 months from DDay...husband had history of watching porn throughout our 15 year marriage, and 2 long term online EA's with sexting/phone sex. At the beginning I was corresponding with one of them through a dice game that they met on. I had told my husband, but never shared the actual specifics of he conversations...it lasted a few days, she was never real honest and I basically got nothing....oh, my husband never saved any conversations with her, any photos, nothing....so I have never seen any proof...although he admitted what he did to me after I found a message from her saying she missed him today!
Anyway, I had taken screenshots of all of the conversations I had with her and a couple I had with her BS...I kept proof in case he needed it. I had these on my iphone and yesterday I must have done something and they all ended up on his iphone! When I got back from my IC, he tells me he saw them on his phone and read them all! I blew up and was so angry.....he tells me he hates her, yet he was curious what we had talked about. I am so mad....that was the one private thing I had and now he knows everything....I am disgusted that he didn't just not look at them....I never shared them with him and he knew that....he again selfishly did what he wanted and didn't care that I would be mad....he tells me he thought I wouldn't be mad though....I am angry and mad and disgusted and let down once again! Its like the last 2 months he learned nothing....it makes me wonder what else he is capable of doing. On top of that...the spyware I put on his work computer is no longer working due to him having to delete it because it was harmful and he was worried. So now I have no way to monitor him. I am so SAD today and ANGRY and wish my life was different...why did he make everything such a mess....I HATE him right now.