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User Topic: Don't know what to do
Jls0320
♀ 41192
Member # 41192
Default  Posted: 3:51 PM, August 8th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WS was served yesterday, we've been separated in house, he was with OW last night. My lawyer said I have the right to change the locks while he's gone, he now thinks he can come home and continue to live here. I told my kids he moved out and I just can not live with him while he's doing this! He's a very sick man. He plans to meet me at house soon and I don't know how to get rid of him. My dad is going to be there with me, but shit, why won't he leave???? The emotional abuse is destroying me


Me: 33 BS 2 boys (2yr & 5yr)
Him: 33 WH, sex addict, then 12 mos EA/2 mos PA with co-worker whore
Together 15yrs, married 7yrs
Dday 9/17/2014, 1/26/14, 7/28/14 broke NC, 8/7/14 (papers served that day) 2 mos PA began. Separated, R during divorce?

Posts: 528 | Registered: Nov 2013
mhca
♂ 41920
Member # 41920
Default  Posted: 3:53 PM, August 8th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hmmm, if the lawyer says you can lock him out, why don't you?


Me: BH 47 STBXWW 47 (Lklb5)
M 19 years, DS 15, DS 11
DD#1: 12/24/2013
TT/Broke NC/False R
DD#2: 4/15/2014
TT 4/23, 4/24, 5/31, 7/19
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Posts: 902 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: California
Jls0320
♀ 41192
Member # 41192
Default  Posted: 4:05 PM, August 8th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I did but he is demanding to get back in since I haven't been granted sole use of the home yet


Me: 33 BS 2 boys (2yr & 5yr)
Him: 33 WH, sex addict, then 12 mos EA/2 mos PA with co-worker whore
Together 15yrs, married 7yrs
Dday 9/17/2014, 1/26/14, 7/28/14 broke NC, 8/7/14 (papers served that day) 2 mos PA began. Separated, R during divorce?

Posts: 528 | Registered: Nov 2013
ISurrender
♂ 44064
Member # 44064
Default  Posted: 4:31 PM, August 8th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

JLS0320, I am not a lawyer (nor do I pretend to be one on TV), but you can follow your lawyer's advice.

I'm not trying to tell you how to manipulate the situation, but if you are honestly feeling at all threatened (physically or emotionally), you may have grounds to keep him out of the house. You have to understand that you have alot of power in this situation to keep yourself from harm.

I'm not sure what the worse thing that could happen could be, but it's likely a misdemeanor that your lawyer could help you fight.

Not to make this about me, but I don't know why some WS's don't leave. It seems like most do - but it appears you and I won the lottery because mine won't leave either and it is infuriating at times.


BS (me): 46
WW: 39
Together for 8 yrs
Married for 6 yrs (since 2008)
DD: 2 yrs
DDay: 7-Sep-2013; 6-7 month PA/EA as of Dday
I filed: Jun 2013, she's still in the house with me.
Kept seeing POS for 2 months after telling me. No remorse

Posts: 30 | Registered: Jul 2014 | From: Maryland
Jls0320
♀ 41192
Member # 41192
Default  Posted: 8:05 PM, August 8th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Whew, he pretty much picked his crap up off my porch and left, thank goodness! My dad was here so that may have helped and we never went outside. He's broke and has no place to go, oh well! Maybe OW will take him in lol


Me: 33 BS 2 boys (2yr & 5yr)
Him: 33 WH, sex addict, then 12 mos EA/2 mos PA with co-worker whore
Together 15yrs, married 7yrs
Dday 9/17/2014, 1/26/14, 7/28/14 broke NC, 8/7/14 (papers served that day) 2 mos PA began. Separated, R during divorce?

Posts: 528 | Registered: Nov 2013
Forged1
♂ 43418
Member # 43418
Default  Posted: 8:08 PM, August 8th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well done. Round of applause for the lady, folks.


Me: BH
Her: Almost XW

Almost done with D
==================================
At this stage, I'm pretty much bulletproof.


Posts: 357 | Registered: May 2014 | From: USA
Futurefear
♀ 43176
Member # 43176
Default  Posted: 9:19 PM, August 8th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow! I'm so jealous!!
Mine won't leave, his attorney advised him not to move out so he comes and goes as he pleases leaving destruction in his wake.
My girls know he's with 'her' yet crave his attention when he's home.
My home is not a comfortable place to be...he can't leave soon enough...
Applause to you!!!


me- BW
him- WH
together 9 yrs, married 7
kids-8,5,17 mon
DD#1-Jan 2014, numerous others followed-filed for divorce April 2014, we are still living in the house together, he won't leave without his $$$.

Posts: 355 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: Midwest
HeBrokeVows
♀ 43252
Member # 43252
Default  Posted: 9:42 PM, August 8th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Before I was awarded sole possession of the house, my attorney advised me that after I changed the locks, and if he shows up disrupting everything, to call the police. Even though technically he can come in, tell the police he's been gone for a while and him coming back is disrupting the children and the house. Basically explain to the police the situation. They will likely talk to him and tell him to leave.

I'd make sure you get an emergency motion going for sole possession. That's what my lawyer did for me with all his bull he was pulling.


Dday March 12, 2014. Found out my husband of almost 10 years was having an affair, first emotional then physical for 6 months.

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