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vtach posted 8/8/2014 21:13 PM

I do not remember our anniversary. Not sure if is subconscious or not. I spent a wonderful afternoon with my sister and best friend. The shock came as I was making a special dinner for my husband. He said something like..."do you know what today is?" I just asked, no what? He reminded me it was our anniversary.

Anyone that knows me knows how sentimental I am. It makes me very sad that my brain cannot remember. Maybe that's a good thing tho.

Time Ticks On posted 8/8/2014 22:22 PM

Maybe you do not remember as it is no longer a special day for you.

tl502 posted 8/10/2014 08:18 AM

I have been through 3 anniversaries since dd. We celebrated the last one, but it was an effort. It was our 30th. Our children wanted to have a party, but I just couldn't do it. We went out to dinner. I feel like a hypocrite celebrating a m that was full of lies and cheating.
On our 30th, this past May, we decided to start anew. I have read the stories here on SI of people who D then got back together later on. Well, I didn't want to go through a D, but decided to let the old m die and just become a memory, mostly happy because of our 2 kids and plenty of good times, but obviously scarred by betrayal.
Now our 30th anniversary is our new start date. So far untouched by lies and betrayal. That's something I think I can celebrate next year. Maybe someday it will be something I could celebrate with family and friends without feeling like a hypocrite.