Here's hoping that you can file on Tuesday. Be sure to ask for exclusive use of the marital home.
Double Betrayal D-Day 7/26/2013
Two steps forward and one step backwards, is still progress.
[This message edited by ItllGetBetter at 8:19 AM, August 10th (Sunday)]
Implement it. It will help you through this. It's not for him it's for you.
Don't let his "nothingness" bullshit get to you. He's trying to convince the next poor lass into believing he's not a complete piece of shit. It's got nothing to do with you.
I wish I lived closer to you. I'd get dressed up and come and take you out for a date or two.
Keep your chin up. It'll get better.
DDay - June 7, 2014
Me - 43
WW - 41
DD - 6 and 3
Pulling the Plug
My x waited until he moved out before he actively started dating, but I did get to read all about his efforts to get back in touch with his stable of lovelies.
I'll never forget reading "Sex with my wife was good, but not freaky like with my girlfriends."
That right there let me know I'd made absolutely the right decision to get the hell out.
(((IGB))) hang in there. This too shall pass.
In the meantime, while he's out one day, reclaim your room and stick a latch on the door so he can stay on the couch.
[This message edited by FaithFool at 1:32 PM, August 10th (Sunday)]
Look after yourself. Roll your eyes at his stupid need to go on dating sites, that he needs some reinforcement from someone else to make him feel better. We, you, on the other hand, are standing on the strength of our own 2 feet as we go through the most unexpected storm ever. We will come out the other side stronger and wiser, and they will go on being…them.
Roll your eyes at his stupid need to go on dating sites, that he needs some reinforcement from someone else to make him feel better. We, you, on the other hand, are standing on the strength of our own 2 feet as we go through the most unexpected storm ever. We will come out the other side stronger and wiser, and they will go on being…them.
This! You guys are so awesome. I think I truly turned a corner: His comment about "nothingness" is, now, just that. Sure (lightbulb moment) it explains the lack of empathy when loved ones of mine passed away, or when he left me in the hospital, arriving via-emergency for surgery in the middle of the night....how he could look at me, crumpled in a ball on the ground sobbing "why?"( before dd)..and feel...ta-daa! Nothing.
It sucks beyond words to know you were in a different M than your WH.
But the silver lining is that you are still the same authentic, lovely woman and you will be so much better off without his deadweight once you are free.