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PurpleRose (original poster member #33129) posted at 5:08 AM on Sunday, August 10th, 2014
Wow.. I never could have predicted being this happy on the other side.
16 years ago today I married the man I loved. We created a beautiful family and had what I thought was a beautiful life.
1 year ago today my divorce was final from that man who turned out to be a dooshbag and was more concerned with his own happiness than in keeping his vows and protecting his family.
So I celebrated tonight- got all dressed up and went out to a trendy little wine bar. Had a lovely evening with some special people in my life. It was full of laughs, sweet compliments, and fun. Oh, and champagne. Lots of that!
What a difference a year can make! I have a perfect new home for my children, absolutely LOVE my job, have such a fabulous circle of supportive friends, and am seeing a wonderfully caring and supportive man.
Hang in there if you are just starting your journey to freedom... There is happiness on the other side!
divorced the Dooosh 8/13
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Dance like nobody is watching,
Text and email like it will be used in court someday...
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 5:24 AM on Sunday, August 10th, 2014
Awesome post. Congratulations, PR! 
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
persevere ( member #31468) posted at 5:35 AM on Sunday, August 10th, 2014
Love this! I remember when you first started posting PR - isn't it amazing to see how far you've come? I am SO happy for you and you have earned it lady!
For those early in on this process please know that as difficult as the D process is, it truly does eventually get better. Just keep your eye on the ball, keep NC and focus on you, your kids, and your healing. None of us wanted or deserved this road, but there is a light at the end of it, just keep going. 
DDay:2011
Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.
Pass ( member #38122) posted at 6:10 AM on Sunday, August 10th, 2014
Very happy for you, Rose. Congratulations on your achievements - the most important being that you ditched the Dooosh!
Divorced the cheater and living my best life now.
The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous.
ButterflyGirl ( member #38377) posted at 5:18 PM on Sunday, August 10th, 2014
What a great post! I followed quite a bit of your story too PR, and you have put up with quite a huge load of bullshit! I'm so glad you had an awesome night out. You've earned it baby.
But,
I have a perfect new home for my children, absolutely LOVE my job, have such a fabulous circle of supportive friends, and am seeing a wonderfully caring and supportive man.
My home is still needs tons of work and is a huge work in progress, my job stinks, and I just had another little date with someone that didn't pan out to be my Prince Charming, so quit rubbing it in, would ya? 
phmh ( member #34146) posted at 6:34 PM on Sunday, August 10th, 2014
I also have been following your story for years. Seeing your growth has just been amazing. I remember thinking that it was taking forever for your divorce to be final. Can't believe it's been a year already.
Congrats!!!
Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!
Married: 11 years, no kids
Character is destiny
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 6:41 PM on Sunday, August 10th, 2014
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
PurpleRose (original poster member #33129) posted at 8:30 PM on Sunday, August 10th, 2014
I definitely would not be where I am emotionally without all of my friends from SI-- for sure. I am so thankful to have landed here in the immediate aftermath of dday.
Thanks for all the support!!
divorced the Dooosh 8/13
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Dance like nobody is watching,
Text and email like it will be used in court someday...
dmari ( member #37215) posted at 8:54 PM on Sunday, August 10th, 2014
I love this post soooo much!! Thank you for sharing PR and I am so happy for you!
tesla ( member #34697) posted at 9:17 PM on Sunday, August 10th, 2014
Love this.
Very happy for you!!
"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear
confused615 ( member #30826) posted at 9:18 PM on Sunday, August 10th, 2014
BS(me)44
FWH 48
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 9:26 PM on Sunday, August 10th, 2014
I am genuinely so very, very happy for you!
Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU
Jls0320 ( member #41192) posted at 11:17 PM on Sunday, August 10th, 2014
I love these posts, it make me so hopeful for the future
Me: BS 2 young kiddos
Him: EXWH, SA/NPD, Craigslist, porn, cam sites. EA/PA with disgusting co-worker troll
Too many DDays 9/13-1/15, too many chances to be a good man
Together 16 yrs, married 7yrs,
Divorced 2/11/15
I deserve to be the ONLY one
Williesmom ( member #22870) posted at 12:32 AM on Monday, August 11th, 2014
Remember. It's a great life, isn't it??
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
norabird ( member #42092) posted at 9:17 PM on Monday, August 11th, 2014
Cheers to you Purplerose!
WastedTime12 ( member #34767) posted at 1:37 AM on Tuesday, August 12th, 2014
Raising my glass to you. Awesome :)
Life is meant to be lived, not numbed!
In his quest for freedom, he set me free!
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