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Topic: One year today!

PurpleRose
♀ 33129
Member # 33129

Posted: 11:08 PM, August 9th (Saturday), 2014

Wow.. I never could have predicted being this happy on the other side.

16 years ago today I married the man I loved. We created a beautiful family and had what I thought was a beautiful life.

1 year ago today my divorce was final from that man who turned out to be a dooshbag and was more concerned with his own happiness than in keeping his vows and protecting his family.

So I celebrated tonight- got all dressed up and went out to a trendy little wine bar. Had a lovely evening with some special people in my life. It was full of laughs, sweet compliments, and fun. Oh, and champagne. Lots of that!

What a difference a year can make! I have a perfect new home for my children, absolutely LOVE my job, have such a fabulous circle of supportive friends, and am seeing a wonderfully caring and supportive man.

Hang in there if you are just starting your journey to freedom... There is happiness on the other side!

divorced the Dooosh
*****************************
even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

Posts: 3633 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Happyville

nowiknow23
♀ 33226
Member # 33226

Posted: 11:24 PM, August 9th (Saturday), 2014

Awesome post. Congratulations, PR!

You can call me NIK

“The most difficult times for many of us are the ones we give ourselves.”
― Pema Chödrön

Posts: 28388 | Registered: Aug 2011

persevere
♀ 31468
Member # 31468

Posted: 11:35 PM, August 9th (Saturday), 2014

Love this! I remember when you first started posting PR - isn't it amazing to see how far you've come? I am SO happy for you and you have earned it lady!

For those early in on this process please know that as difficult as the D process is, it truly does eventually get better. Just keep your eye on the ball, keep NC and focus on you, your kids, and your healing. None of us wanted or deserved this road, but there is a light at the end of it, just keep going.

Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44

DDay:2011
Status: D 2011

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling

Posts: 4845 | Registered: Mar 2011

Pass
♂ 38122
Member # 38122

Posted: 12:10 AM, August 10th (Sunday), 2014

Very happy for you, Rose. Congratulations on your achievements - the most important being that you ditched the Dooosh!

Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous

Posts: 2158 | Registered: Jan 2013

ButterflyGirl
♀ 38377
Member # 38377

Posted: 11:18 AM, August 10th (Sunday), 2014

What a great post! I followed quite a bit of your story too PR, and you have put up with quite a huge load of bullshit! I'm so glad you had an awesome night out. You've earned it baby.

But,

I have a perfect new home for my children, absolutely LOVE my job, have such a fabulous circle of supportive friends, and am seeing a wonderfully caring and supportive man.

My home is still needs tons of work and is a huge work in progress, my job stinks, and I just had another little date with someone that didn't pan out to be my Prince Charming, so quit rubbing it in, would ya?

xBW~ 35
Two DS~ 7-Eleven

Posts: 2805 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Florida

phmh
♀ 34146
Member # 34146

Posted: 12:34 PM, August 10th (Sunday), 2014

I also have been following your story for years. Seeing your growth has just been amazing. I remember thinking that it was taking forever for your divorce to be final. Can't believe it's been a year already.

Congrats!!!

Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny

Posts: 3691 | Registered: Dec 2011

FaithFool
♀ 20150
Member # 20150

Posted: 12:41 PM, August 10th (Sunday), 2014

DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 18105 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada

PurpleRose
♀ 33129
Member # 33129

Posted: 2:30 PM, August 10th (Sunday), 2014

I definitely would not be where I am emotionally without all of my friends from SI-- for sure. I am so thankful to have landed here in the immediate aftermath of dday.

Thanks for all the support!!

divorced the Dooosh
*****************************
even if you find your voice,
sometimes it does not matter anymore,
when you speak to a man who is deaf by choice.
~dodinsky

Posts: 3633 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Happyville

dmari
♀ 37215
Member # 37215

Posted: 2:54 PM, August 10th (Sunday), 2014

I love this post soooo much!! Thank you for sharing PR and I am so happy for you!

Me (BS): 43 Children: DD 19, DS 16
Divorced September 30, 2014
"It's always darkest before the dawn ..."

Posts: 2462 | Registered: Oct 2012

tesla
♀ 34697
Member # 34697

Posted: 3:17 PM, August 10th (Sunday), 2014

Love this.
Very happy for you!!

"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4956 | Registered: Jan 2012

confused615
♀ 30826
Member # 30826

Posted: 3:18 PM, August 10th (Sunday), 2014

((((PurpleRose))))

BS(me)42
FWH 46
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.

Posts: 8653 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Indiana

Nature_Girl
♀ 32554
Member # 32554

Posted: 3:26 PM, August 10th (Sunday), 2014

I am genuinely so very, very happy for you!

Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

Posts: 10487 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA

Jls0320
♀ 41192
Member # 41192

Posted: 5:17 PM, August 10th (Sunday), 2014

I love these posts, it make me so hopeful for the future

Me: 33 BS 2 boys (3 & 5yr)
Him: 34 WH, sex addict, narcissist, 18 mos EA/2 mos PA with co-worker whore
Too many DDays 9/13-1/15, too many chances to be a good man
Together 16 yrs, married 7yrs,
Divorced 2/11/15
I deserve to be the ONLY one!

Posts: 746 | Registered: Nov 2013

Williesmom
♀ 22870
Member # 22870

Posted: 6:32 PM, August 10th (Sunday), 2014

Remember. It's a great life, isn't it??

You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7992 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA

norabird
♀ 42092
Member # 42092

Posted: 3:17 PM, August 11th (Monday), 2014

Cheers to you Purplerose!

Sit. Feast on your life.

Posts: 4282 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC

WastedTime12
♀ 34767
Member # 34767

Posted: 7:37 PM, August 11th (Monday), 2014

Raising my glass to you. Awesome :)

Life is meant to be lived, not numbed!

In his quest for freedom, he set me free!

Posts: 227 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Dallas, TX

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