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norabird (original poster member #42092) posted at 7:47 AM on Sunday, August 10th, 2014
I don't normally feel much regret, but it creeps up sometimes in certain moods. I guess I look back at my dating life and feel I haven't really ended up with anything from it. That's untrue, because the experiences have been formative, but I still feel twinges of it. Tonight at a concert I saw two former 'flames' for lack of a better word and given that I am in a sort of stressed place, it made me a little wistful. Even though there was really no there there with either of them! Maybe it's also a variant of the 'I'll never have a real relationship' pity party, also rare for me and total bunk. Besides everything else in my life is very rich and full.
Any strategies when/if this feeling strikes?
bigskyblues ( member #36759) posted at 11:25 AM on Sunday, August 10th, 2014
norabid, I had a lot of self esteem damage post D. I was eventually able to "see me as others see me" (favorite saying of my dad when he was making a point during my childhood). I came to know that I was a good person, a really good dad, and I had a lot of good things to offer. Knowing how others saw me gave me a lot of confidence, and life has worked out well.
You said
Besides everything else in my life is very rich and full.
Relax a little bit, ask yourself how others see you? I suspect they see someone that is pretty special and at some point that right person will come along, until then enjoy the rich and full life you deserve.
BSB
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BH 50s
xWW 50s
Dday1 7-2012
Dday2 8-2012
Divorce 9-2012
4 kids all adults.
Married 22+ years.
I have moved on and life is good!
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