norabid, I had a lot of self esteem damage post D. I was eventually able to "see me as others see me" (favorite saying of my dad when he was making a point during my childhood). I came to know that I was a good person, a really good dad, and I had a lot of good things to offer. Knowing how others saw me gave me a lot of confidence, and life has worked out well.
Besides everything else in my life is very rich and full.
Relax a little bit, ask yourself how others see you? I suspect they see someone that is pretty special and at some point that right person will come along, until then enjoy the rich and full life you deserve.
[This message edited by bigskyblues at 5:29 AM, August 10th (Sunday)]
4 kids all adults.
Married 22+ years.
I have moved on and life is good!