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tesla posted 8/10/2014 06:25 AM

I knew it couldn't last. Since the 4-way last June, he's been very polite in texts, very nearly amicable.

Teslet goes to a parochial school...been going there for 3 and 4 year old preschool. Last October, ex-shat threw a fit with the school because he wanted to exercise first right of refusal while Teslet was in daycare...BUT he wanted to send stripper whore to pick Teslet up (at the time they were not married) so that ex-shat could sleep (he sent this in an email to the school). I told the school that ex-shat could pick Teslet up but no one else. Anyway, big mantrum and ex-shat says that "I'm afraid you're gonna have to find another school for Teslet next year."
Whatever.
I send him a text at spring saying that I was registering Teslet for kindergarten at the parochial school. Never hear anything back. I send the registration packet, complete with school calendar to ex-shat return-receipt, certified mail. He never signed for it or picked it up from the post office.
I text a couple weeks ago, letting him know that tuition was due soon. Text a reminder again this week.

Get an email last night and ex-shat is off the rails again. Says he told me several times that he wasn't contributing tuition if I sent Teslet to 'that school.' His reasons: The school is teaching Teslet that my last name is his last name. They are a religious school and filling his head with nonsense, he wants his son to go to a school where he will learn some academic and usable skills. And he was given the run around about the 'ridiculous' amounts of time that Teslet was in daycare. He should have been spending that time with his father.

**Yawn**
Translation: I'm broke and I can't pay tuition. I have to pick a fight with you about something silly because you are about to hand me my ass in court because I still haven't stepped up to the plate and done the right thing. (I should say, he is at least paying a portion of CS weekly, which will keep him out of jail.)

Court is scheduled for the end of this month...but still waiting on the info from his employer...so the date may get delayed again.

His email is getting crickets since there is no question or attempt at a real discussion about Teslet's schooling. Just a litany of stupidity.

I'm not even mad about it...just bored that he's so unoriginal. I have the entire amount of tuition set aside because I figured that he would do this. The crappy thing is that he'll start talking shit about the school to Teslet and Teslet LOVES his school.

SBB posted 8/10/2014 06:51 AM

I'm not even mad about it...just bored that he's so unoriginal.

And so transparent.

What a piece is shit. Your translation was spot on.

Gemini71 posted 8/10/2014 08:10 AM

I'm sure Ex-Shat would be more accommodating if Teslet attended 'Our Lady of the Stripper-Pole.' What an idiot. Crickets all the way.

FirstLoveGone posted 8/10/2014 11:21 AM

Fucking tool. Seriously. He's such an immature brat - throwing a tantrum because he can't get his way.

I love that now, all of a sudden, the school isn't good for Teslet. XH pulls the same shit with me. After a bajillion years of doing something related to DD, he will get a bug up his butt and for some assanine reason want it changed. I respond with, "DD has been doing this for the past several years. If you have a problem with it have your lawyer contact mine." That tends to stop him in his tracks.

They have none of our parenting responsibilities, yet seem to think they can dictate orders to us. I so wish we could respond with a big "Shove it up your ass."

Kajem posted 8/10/2014 11:24 AM

He's so predictable!!!

I am so glad you are there for Teslet!!!

K

nowiknow23 posted 8/10/2014 11:29 AM

I'm sure I've asked you this a thousand times, but I'm old and can't remember the answer - what does your decree say about who gets final say on decisions regarding school, etc. for teslet? Do you have to mediate any differences of opinion, or do you get to call the ball?

devistatedmom posted 8/10/2014 11:44 AM

NIK, although I know your question is an important one, and I really hope tesla has last say, other than whine when they go to court for other things, he's too much of an idiot to bother taking her to court to "make" her change the money costing things...like school. That would be work!

IrishLass518 posted 8/10/2014 12:27 PM

Funny, I have been watching the boards the last week wondering when your exshat was going to start up again. Hmm, he must be on a monthly cycle. I love how him ignoring all of the info and the facts didn't immediately make things happen HIS way. I can't wait for this court update.

tesla posted 8/10/2014 14:25 PM

Irishlass -- Yes, I imagine his douchebag alarm must go off about 2-3 weeks ahead of court and he has to concoct some asshatery which will consume his waking hours.

Nik - If he actually made an issue of it, we would have to go to mediation. I'm not too worried about that. He won't actually *do* something about it...screaming and whining is his preferred mode.

But, let's say he did.
1. There is no academic basis for pulling Teslet from this school. They have a rigorous and comprehensive curriculum...and a class size of 12! As an educator, I like what I see.
2. He could say he doesn't want him in a religious school (he's a self described Buddhist diest...yeah, I could never really put heads or tails to that either...especially with his actions) but it's the religion of my family. So I doubt he'll get anywhere there either.

Gemini - yeah, Our Lady of the stripper pole is exactly where he'd send Teslet. If he had his way, he'd have Teslet in half-day kindergarten (does half-day kindergarten even exist anywhere anymore?) and have her watching him the rest of the time.

I think, in his head, he's coming up with a brilliant plan to make a custody grab. I think he's going to try to say that the elementary school in his district (he lives 40 minutes away) is better and that Teslet should live with him so he can attend said school. Seriously. I'm positive this is the fight he's trying to have instead of paying 2012 tax return money, back CS, and ironing out the health insurance bullshit.

The smell of chickenshit wafting into his house from his garage must be poisoning his remaining brain cells.

dmari posted 8/10/2014 15:01 PM




Sigh ... I don't know what to say. I don't know how you manage to stay sane, tesla. You are the parent that has teslet's best interest but you still have to deal with an absolute idiot.

Williesmom posted 8/10/2014 15:39 PM

I've said it before, and I'll say it again.

Jagoff.

persevere posted 8/10/2014 16:24 PM

He really is very unoriginal, I'm a bit disappointed - you'd think he'd at least come up with something new.

nowiknow23 posted 8/10/2014 16:32 PM

I think, in his head, he's coming up with a brilliant plan to make a custody grab. I think he's going to try to say that the elementary school in his district (he lives 40 minutes away) is better and that Teslet should live with him so he can attend said school. Seriously. I'm positive this is the fight he's trying to have instead of paying 2012 tax return money, back CS, and ironing out the health insurance bullshit.
Undoubtedly. Strength to you, honey.

sparkysable posted 8/10/2014 17:32 PM

**Yawn**
Translation: I'm broke and I can't pay tuition. I have to pick a fight with you about something silly because you are about to hand me my ass in court because I still haven't stepped up to the plate and done the right thing.
You are exactly right.

IrishLass518 posted 8/10/2014 17:42 PM

And he would have great luck with that bid for custody. Let's take a closer look at his arguments.
1. School - since Teslet is accustomed to the current school and successful as a student, it makes perfect sense to move him to another school just so exshat doesn't have to pay for tuition.
2. Since Tesla is a teacher and stripper whore is a stripper whore it makes perfect sense to remove Teslet from his current home and give custody to the good folks at Green Acres. There he will learn the valuable skills of chicken farming.
3. Why of course you can get full custody of a child based upon the argument that you can't afford child support. Having said child in your home will be such a money saver.

Please, please, please let him take you to court for full custody. I for one would be selling the popcorn and tickets for that and I would give every dime over to you just for the entertainment value alone. I am not one who takes lightly putting the custody of any child on the line but this would seriously be the biggest slam dunk case in family court history.

tryingagain74 posted 8/10/2014 22:58 PM

It's amazing to me how they stay silent... until money is involved. I could probably sign my five-year-old DD up for skydiving lessons, and as long as I don't ask ex-cheater for money, he wouldn't care.

Almost every conflict I've had with ex-cheater has been about money... I'm sure that if I were willing to pay 100% of the medical bills after insurance, he wouldn't care where I took them. But when he thinks it's 50% of too much, then it's temper tantrum time.

Your ex is just like mine that way. He's got money for Disney World, stripper pole installations, and God knows what all. But when it comes to something responsible rather than fun? Well, it's time to stamp his feet and make noise; he doesn't want to have to spend his money THAT way. I'm sure that if you offered to pay 100% of the tuition, he wouldn't care if you sent Teslet to a basket weaving institute. FTG!

Nature_Girl posted 8/10/2014 23:21 PM

Yes. Yes. Of course Teslet should be removed from a school he's excelling in. Of course. I mean, like:

Nature_Girl posted 8/10/2014 23:21 PM

Yes. Yes. Of course Teslet should be removed from a school he's excelling in. Of course. I mean, like:

gonnabe2016 posted 8/10/2014 23:26 PM

I think, in his head, he's coming up with a brilliant plan to make a custody grab
Well of course he is. He's telegraphed his intentions by telling Teslet that he's going to come and live with him when he's 8. A custody switch ain't ever going to happen.

Says he told me several times that he wasn't contributing tuition if I sent Teslet to 'that school.'
Yea, because if he said that he did it then it's true, right? The time for him to have lodged his complaint was when you sent the email about it being registration time. He didn't object, so your assumption was that he was okay with it.
Now you're just going to have to add his 1/2 of the tuition to the amount that he already owes you.....

vcr1995 posted 8/11/2014 08:45 AM

What is in your degree about private school? I'm afraid this one he will win if you have nothing in your degree. It doesn't matter that he was going there for preschool, because preschool you have to pay for and kindergarten you don't have to pay for. You already know that even though the status quo at school is best for Teslet, he DOESN'T care. He cares about what is best for him.

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