I think a good friend's husband is showing some sloppy boundaries towards me...but I may be hypervigilant?
Friend and I chat about all sorts, incl, sometimes, her relationship with her H. I have a rule that I will not talk about relationships with someone of the opposite sex (ie, her H).
We all went away recently and my friend was very busy with a project, so that left her H and I looking after our children together. I'm very aware of my boundaries and of potential slippery slope situations, so I've given him very obvious unavailable platonic only vibes. He is not someone I'm at all attracted to (and if he was, I would have distanced myself even more - I WILL NOT be an OW or hurt a M). He didn't exactly flirt, but he spent times complaining about my friend. From what I know of my STBXH, this is how he started up his A's, by complaining about me and getting sympathy. It made me feel very uncomfortable. As I said, because I don't discuss relationships with the opposite sex, I didn't engage with what he was saying, even to defend her. I just gave him crickets each time.
Am I handling this ok?
Him: STBXWH 'The Arse' - Unremorseful passive aggressive blameshifter. CL, AFF, EA's & at least 1 PA. Dday Aug 2012. He walked out April 2013, wanting D, now stalling
Took a while, but I like the me I am, without him