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ajsmom posted 8/11/2014 05:22 AM

Hey y''s me.

Tomorrow will mark my 25th Woulda Anniversary. Even though I'm five years post D, I'm anticipating a rough day at sea as most if you get that this storm never really goes away. It just changes direction.

Ex-asshat blocked in every conceivable communicative way? Check.

IC's contact number at the ready? Check.

Schedule full to ensure distraction? Check.

Still I know that at times tomorrow certain memories of that day will flood back. Please remind me that my new beginning is just that, that it's much better to be without him then with him, and if you want to toss in a few reminders to me as to why he is such an asshole, feel free.

Thanks in advance.


Sad in AZ posted 8/11/2014 05:50 AM

You know we have your back

I'm sorry you're still going through this my friend. I had some of this around DGS's birth, but it's faded, and so will your angst.


norabird posted 8/11/2014 09:10 AM


I'm sorry. It's okay to have the bumpy day. Five years from tomorrow I'll bet it will be easier--does that help?

nowiknow23 posted 8/11/2014 09:20 AM

I had my 25th woulda back in January, so I get it. You get a gold star for recognizing it might be tough and lining up self-care ahead of time.

You've got this, honey.


lieshurt posted 8/11/2014 09:37 AM

You know we have your back



Williesmom posted 8/11/2014 09:47 AM

Standing right behind you - mine is coming up in about 2 months.

You can do it. The super-coolness that is you will prevail.

cmego posted 8/11/2014 10:01 AM

Hang in there!

FaithFool posted 8/11/2014 11:05 AM

Oh shoot, I can barely remember what day it was... You will too eventually!

Might be a good day to take a kickboxing class?

Newlease posted 8/11/2014 15:43 PM

I experienced what woulda been my 25 one year (yes one) after the D was final. I spent the day weeping in my bed. Then I got up and moved on. Now, 9 years later, I don't even remember the day until it has passed.

Sending strength and peace.


Charity411 posted 8/11/2014 15:56 PM

Good thoughts coming your way. I know just how you feel. When my daughter was pregnant she was due on what would have been my anniversary. I was so glad she was overdue. The thought of that being my grand daughter's birthday was horrific to me. And I can't imagine having to spend the 22 hours in the maternity waiting room that I did with him if it was on our anniversary. It was bad enough days later but that would have been pure hell.

Five years is nothing. I felt that way 20 years out.

caregiver9000 posted 8/11/2014 16:01 PM

Take a deep breath and remember we love ya!!

It will be over soon. And then it will be in the past.


persevere posted 8/11/2014 16:55 PM

Hey ajsmom, missed you lately! Sorry this date is here, but I know you can make it through, and we're all here for you if you need it.

Good news, is once you are past this one, you're all good, and I'm hopeful it will pass more easily than you think. ((ajsmom))

kernel posted 8/11/2014 19:51 PM

You got this ajsmom, you're tough. My 25th was 3 months before the divorce, so at least I don't have to dread it coming up! Don't forget to do something nice for yourself in the middle of all that busy-ness.

And thanks for being the Commish!

[This message edited by kernel at 7:51 PM, August 11th (Monday)]

hexed posted 8/11/2014 20:19 PM


we've missed you around these parts.

My X and I were together 7 years before we married. Our 10th anni would have been 7/17/14. I was pretty ready to be bothered by it. Nope...

Not at all. It crossed my mind but didn't send me spinning at all. You may be surprised by your lack of reaction.


You know where to find us!

Must Survive posted 8/11/2014 20:30 PM


You've got this. Sending you (((hugs))) and forgetfulness for tomorrow.

better4me posted 8/11/2014 21:09 PM

Sending the bestest of good thoughts. Remember you can feel all of your feelings Darlin', you don't have to like them or want them, you just have to feel 'em...

yewtree posted 8/11/2014 21:19 PM

Hey! Just think how much stronger you will be after tomorrow!!!!
I hope you will do something nice for yourself.

roseguide posted 8/11/2014 21:31 PM


gahurts posted 8/12/2014 07:12 AM

Thinking about you today Ajsmom. Hang in here. We are all here to vent to when you need support.

WeepingBuddhist posted 8/12/2014 08:04 AM

Sending you good vibes!

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