After many sleepless nights, and reading other "letters to the OW", I thought I'd give it a
try to see if it would dissipate my anger (it didn't).
But I thought I'd throw this out there. I have no intention of sending it, but may read it to WH and our MC.
(YAGL - was their secret code for "You Are Greatly Loved." In the Urban Dictionary, it stands for "You AREN'T getting laid.")
I thought I would share a few thoughts with you.
After you sucked my husband’s dick, you told me, “I had nothing to fear from you and you asked me not to let your actions define you. “ You also said, “I’m not some stupid chick that ruins marriages, it’s not something I’ve ever done before or will ever do again.”
Well, let’s define your actions then: you and WH resumed your affair, so you ARE a woman that sets out to ruin someone else’s marriage. You ARE a cocksucker, and you and WH deliberately planned to destroy my marriage, jeopardize my home, threaten my son’s education and my family’s future.
Of course, my WH bears the blame for breaking our marriage vows - as I told you in the days after you revealed you sucked his cock. Knowing this was mostly his fault, I foolishly asked him to apologize to you for his actions. When you resumed your trashy relationship, the two of you must have had a good laugh about that (the apology) while he was groping your breasts and you were rubbing his cock - and while we were going to marriage counseling. LOL.
Again, I mostly blame my SOB husband for resuming the affair with you. He is a broken man with a personality disorder – thanks for bringing out the best in him!
And speaking of disorders, are you off your medication? You alternately call him a bloody liar, a coward, claim to miss him, threaten to expose him at the office, tell him YAGL, call him a fearful dog on a leash, threaten to slap him, still love him.
And after calling him a bloody liar, you apologize and tell him he is not a liar but a good, strong and courageous man. Actually, if you had half a brain cell, you would know that he is, in fact, a habitual liar. He has lied to both of us, repeatedly. A good, strong and courageous man does not take the route he has taken.
You whined that you still miss him and claim I could only keep him by threatening him with shame. Actually, it was you who made that threat when you demanded he talk to you or you would make a scene at work. As I told you, I offered several times for him to leave our marriage and go “be happy” with you. I just couldn’t get him to leave, damn it!
One of my favorite of your texts to my WH is “I hope she knows what a kind and peace loving man she has.” Again, you are delusional. He has been a piece of shit. And you claim that “I know she (me) is hurt, but not as much as me as I have the greater loss.” REALLY, bitch? I have been married to this SOB for 22 years; you have only been feeding his ego for 18 months.
Our relationship, as we have known it, has come to an end. His children know about the affair and are sorely disappointed in their father. My son, although he truly loves his dad, acts as though he hates him.
My WH has hit rock bottom and is unable to say and do the right things for damage control with his (adult) children. There has been a lot of sadness and anger in our lives, not only from our immediate family, but from the people we know that love us.
You say you are a good person and didn’t intend to hurt anyone. But your decisions define you. I hope, for the sake of other women and their families, that you make better decisions in the future.
*Oh, and please look up YAGL in the urban dictionary.