I was in a relationship (close to a year and a half) he was older, a musician, and I thought we were in love. He was gentle, soft spoken and very charismatic to women and men. he was loving and sweet, always called and checked in. Mom loved him. He called me his wife even though we were only bf and gf. we ended up breaking up, during this time I discovered the following
I found out from a mutual friend that he had called her drunk late at night (and she would too) saying inappropriate things to her of course and she to him. Strangely this girl was the one who comforted me during my breakup. little by little I started to realize that her friendship with my ex wasn't so innocent and over dinner one night she came clean with all this information. I became concerned and when she said she wouldn't be able to control herself around him and could possibly sleep with him I terminated the friendship right away.
Because of this incident I believe he has been unfaithful to me all along as there were stories I had heard. He always said people would try to tear us apart. someone once contacted me trying to warn me that he had another gf in another city but I trusted my partner as opposed to strangers. I trusted him with all my heart.
He won't admit to anything now, I'm upset and hurt. I feel abandoned by him and in my heart of hearts I know if I mattered he would at least be honest. we had agreed during the breakup to being on a break and I told him id wait for him and he sent me a text saying he misses me and loves me. but once I found out this, I sent all his belongings back to him.
I wonder if people can change. I wonder if he ever really loved me.
How do you get through....
[This message edited by aliceayres at 4:01 PM, August 11th (Monday)]