Any tips from experience.
My friends and family know it was his affair. Acquaintance I simply say he left us back in march because he had another life he was living and didn't want "this" anymore. No one asks more. I too get worried because my kids are growing up in this town. But I did nothing wrong. Yet they don't need to k ow all details. If they find out, not a biggie thought.
Was just at kindergarten play date at their school. A few friends I haven't seen in a while I told them. Not details, but below he chose another life. It went over fine.
"She's a lying, cheating, slut."
Never sure how that's going to turn out. Sometimes people immediately express concern or rage. Other times, a hush falls over the crowd.
This time, it was rage. We had a nice little rant together!
The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous
Delay is the deadliest form of denial. - C. Northcote Parkinson
Your standards aren't up for negotiation just because he/she can't meet them.
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.
my daughter lives in community don't want to throw mud on her mom
I have 3 young daughters and they are the reason I haven't told anyone about the cheating ex, I just leave it at "It just wasn't working out". I don't want my girls finding out and thinking that is an acceptable thing to do because their mother did it.... Now I have told other people with whom it would have less chance of getting back to my girls, and if I ever find out that the STBXWW is fooling around with another married man, all bets are off. I would tell every person she knows, especially her married female friends (as a warning and service to them that stxww doesn't consider married men off limits for dating). Just my 2 cents
I had a great marriage until he came down with an incurable case of infidelity
I love this!
Honestly, in the acquaintance circle, I don't say anything (because usually people don't ask) but, if someone does ask, I tell the truth - he was unfaithful, I divorced him. End of story. Most people don't want the gory details.
I will say, and I don't know if guys are like this too, but one mom asked at my boys preschool early on (when we were separated, headed to D and I was still very very angry) and I told her the whole story -- all the gory details. That got around so fast it made my head spin. I didn't really care, but I was *shocked* at the speed that news like that spread.
Me - 36 BS Him - doesn't matter 2 DS DD 11/08 Divorced.
I'm going to use the "I didn't like his girlfriend" response, because it makes me laugh and is true! Thank you lovehonorcherish!
I have also just bluntly said that she betrayed and abandoned me. I get mixed reactions. It is never easy but I find the cold hard truth to be the best response.
As some other member often posts, this shit aint easy!
There is hope. Once you truly commit to focusing on yourself and letting go, it comes back, and you will appreciate it like never before.
