Gently- this is still all just talk.
Consistent actions over weeks and months show remorse. Remorse shouldn't be confused with compliance.
Just going to counseling doesn't help. He will only get out of it what he puts into it. My wh coasted along meaninglessly in ic for almost 3 years. During that time he was not remorseful but he pointed out several times that he was doing what I asked.
Yes, this is great news that he has agreed to go to counseling.
He should attend ic weekly for several months before you start mc. Monthly ic sessions are too far apart for someone needing as much help as he needs. (Really any cheater)
But don't declare remorse just yet. He has a long way to go before that's proven. I hope he means it.
[This message edited by BtraydWife at 11:01 PM, August 11th (Monday)]
TT for 6 months
Unremorseful for 3.5 years
Delay is the deadliest form of denial. - C. Northcote Parkinson
Your standards aren't up for negotiation just because he/she can't meet them.