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MelisssaZZZ posted 8/12/2014 04:22 AM

And my life has stabilised, I have fully reinvented myself in various ways. For most of the time - happy :)!

then BOOM - xwh is taking me to court (to happen in october). to 'rejuggle' finances. become really invasive (using DD as a doorway). accuses me of being god knows what, working hard on creating yet anohter epic drama lama.

Then i check ow fb page. and she is single.. I have to say i have absolutely no feelings about their break up - indifference is bliss.. i did have to laugh as she has gotten fat and looks even uglier...

However, this comes with a sting - he obviously has more time to torment me.. and surely this lawsuit is just the beggining of going fater the person who 'ruined' his life..

sight.. and i have just started dating someone.. its early days and unlikely to survive the sh*tstorm x is creating yet again.

[This message edited by MelisssaZZZ at 6:04 AM, August 12th (Tuesday)]

LoveHerStill posted 8/12/2014 12:07 PM

Shields up!

Remember the basics. Email only for correspondence, or better yet, it all goes through your lawyer concerning the suit.

Do Not Engage, just don't bite when he starts trying to press your buttons.

He most likely has nothing to merit a change in his financial support unless he can prove hardship on his part.

Be up front with SO, but do not involve him in this.

HurtingandLost posted 8/12/2014 12:19 PM

I would refer all communication through your Lawyer.

My ex wife and I split in 03 and every time she was on the rocks with OM she would stir the drama Llama B.S. with threatened court dates etc. DON'T RESPOND DON'T FEED THE LLAMA! My response is and has always been "There's no need to correspond directly with me, here's my lawyers contact info".