This is very venty. Sorry everyone.
I'm the distracted type. So I depend on reminders. STBXWW knows this.
During the M, she did a lot of the reminding. She's always been very good with calendars and such.
As we've been apart a while now (7 months) due to her A and unremorsefulness, I've gotten good at reminding myself of everything via big visible calendars, and stressed out over organizing everything in my household (even though I'm not necessarily very good at it). I share a Google calendar with her for the kids. So she has an exact copy of the calendar I keep for the kids. On her phone. Monthly I copy the calendar on my kitchen for the kids and sitter to keep in mind.
So last night I get a text asking telling me about "tomorrow's" DD8 starting school. I didn't question it, maybe I was wrong. So I told dd8 to go to bed early and got everything ready for the first day of school (everything is purchased, new backpack and all - I thought maybe my calendar is wrong, and I didn't want to start a back and forth with her on who's right and repeat the stupid relationship patterns when we clearly no longer have or need to have a relationship, so I didn't correct her either).
She texts at 5am apologizing, and sending me copies of the same documents from school I already have that say about school starting next week, not this one. Of course I'm asleep after a long day of working+manage household+kids+cooking. So now I'm awake. Later on, as I'm getting everything ready for the kid that is indeed back in school (DS10), I see DD8 coming down in her uniform all ready and excited for her first day at school. I clarify the situation as nicely as I can.
Stupid me for still trusting STBX and not verifying.
She doesn't work, refuses to work and just asked for a lot of money through the Ls to "go back to school". I guess when you don't do anything for months but see OM and live a fantasy life courtesy of your ex-H, no amount of $ is enough and the days just blend through. And the Calendar button on her phone is too far. Or something.
The usual sitter is on vacation, and I'm starting with a new one who will hopefully become their regular from now on so we don't have to share a sitter. She's done great but it's still stressful to leave my kids with someone new.
I don't know why she concocts this crap and tries to throw me off in my parenting. I don't even know if she's doing it consciously. I don't understand it, but I hate the boundary crap she pulls. Being a single dad with a high pressure job is hard enough as it is without her ^%$%$ head games..
How can I make her not be important in my life anymore if she keeps inserting herself in it??
Anyway, thanks for listening.
[This message edited by GotPlayed at 1:38 PM, August 12th, 2014 (Tuesday)]