[This message edited by hurtmommy1611 at 5:10 AM, August 13th (Wednesday)]
I would also like to say how impressed I am with your decision. I am so sorry you find yourself in this position especially at 36 weeks pregnant, I just can't imagine a man being that pathetic!
Take care of yourself and the kids, don't even waste a moment thinking about WH.
4 kids all adults.
Married 22+ years.
I have moved on and life is good!
Keep your resolve, know that many times the D process turbo charges already nasty/immoral people, and allow the power of your conviction, to push you ahead toward the goal of not being married to a spineless, cowardly, selfish cheater. Best of luck.
The cruel, the unkind, those without honor, feast on the tender heart...
Also, get a lawyer ASAP. Mine wanted us to not involve lawyers He wanted me to not know what I was entitled to etc. He also thought he could keep on manipulating me and get the better of me like he did during our M and his A. Best thing I did was to get a lawyer and file.
As for the rest...once I got over my initial fears/panic about coping on my own (he'd whacked myself esteem that much!), I found being a single mum much easier than being with him after dday. It's still hard,especially when I or the children are ill...but not having that constant stress/black cloud hanging around has been a weight off my shoulders. Hopefully it will be for you too.
Took a while, but I like the me I am, without him.
I agree with all the advice so far, especially getting legal counsel immediately. Thinking about what conditions, if any, you would be willing to consider reconciliation is a good idea too.
And I hope you have family/friends to support you for the birth of your new baby so that it can be a joyous occasion - take all offers for help.
You're too good for him. Taking immediate action by ending the relationship and consulting a lawyer was the best decision I made.
He will accuse you of ending the relationship - make sure you explain that he ended the relationship when he decided to fuck a pathetic slut.
Implement the 180 now. You are in for some tough days where your mind will be screaming at you to talk to him and seek comfort from him. Don't. Take some time for you and your kids. Be selfish. He was.
If YOU decide to try reconciliation later you can. IF he does the heavy lifting and makes you feel safe. Watch out for regret vs. remorse though. Don't listen to his words, watch his actions.
Post here as much as you need. We all get it. I will be watching for your posts.
[This message edited by ChangeMaker at 7:43 AM, August 13th (Wednesday)]
DDay - June 7, 2014
Me - 43
WW - 41
DD - 6 and 3
Pulling the Plug