Realize that there are things you can't do.
Unfortunately, sometimes that means people end up not being able to work.
I ultimately got fired from my job after D-day. I would have gotten fired in any event, because my firing was political, but the fact is that I was not focused and was not performing up to my pre-D-Day levels.
Self-care carries over into all aspects of your life. Find time for yourself, get enough sleep, water, nutrition, and exercise. This will benefit your health, happiness, and ability to work.
I want someone to spend time with and enjoy.
See if your place of employment has some sort of benefit like that.
Try and eat or drink something every day, even if its little. The days are hard now, but they will get easier. You sometimes feel like you can't get through the day, hours, even minutes, but it'll get better. I promise. I'm 3 months out and even though I still have those moments, it's a lot easier to breathe each morning. Make a goal for yourself to at least get out of bed, brush your teeth and shower. There has not been one day I haven't gotten out of bed, and I think that has made a big difference.
The human body is a resilient thing and you'll be amazed at what you are capable of handling.
You can survive this.
You will survive this.
I know you can get FMLA leave if needed. I am fortunate that I have a flexible work schedule, can work from home, have tons of vacation and have great bosses. They don't know what is going on, but I was able to just tell them there were some personal issues I needed to deal with (night of Dday) and they said take whatever is needed. WHs has a co-worker currently on FMLA related to infidelity. I'm afraid to just completely take off because I fear where I would be if I didn't have at least SOME work distraction.
Good luck. It is not easy. Take care of yourself. I do think exercise helps, so you might give that a try just before trying to work.
And I'm always looking for more.
I would strongly recommend filling out FMLA papers with the intermittent leave portion. That way if you do have a day where you just can't seem to do it, you have the ability to not go in, or leave. This protects you from getting in trouble from absences, and I don't care how good you think your employer is, unless you protect yourself you are putting yourself at risk. Employers are no longer loyal to their employees.
You can't wait for someone else to make this better, you have to act. You are the only one that can truly heal you, and make you a happy complete person again. Self care is a huge part of learning this, and actually living it. I always tell newbies that you need to start doing one kind thing for you, and just you every day. It can be anything from reading quietly to taking a long bath, to getting a mani/pedi. But something that you enjoy and hopefully something that makes you feel better about you.
If your work is something repetitive then music can help to get into a groove for sure.
Music helped me tremendously. But I am a huge music nut, and listening to some of my favorite artists were really helpful. Listening to music without lyrics to muck up your thinking helped too. I listened to a lot of classical and blues.