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fraeuken posted 8/13/2014 22:23 PM

Came home by 6 p.m. from work. Cooked my favorite veggie (kale) just for me. Nobody complaining about the smell. Spent some time on organizing a large closet and decided to finish the job on Friday. Crashed on the couch and watching a The Good Wife in Hulu. Tomorrow my girls come home and the next days are busy with work, petsitting, kids and flying.

I love those "me" nights. Would I love to fall asleep next to somebody? Yes. Not lying. Would I want to deal with the demands of a relationship? No. So the cat will do for now while I am enjoying a level of freedom I never had before.

[This message edited by fraeuken at 10:24 PM, August 13th (Wednesday)]

ProbableIceCream posted 8/13/2014 22:26 PM

I'm starting to think that if I'm in a relationship with someone who doesn't like my preferences then maybe it's not meant to be.

persevere posted 8/13/2014 22:34 PM

I enjoy my time with my SO but I am not who I was in my marriage. I enjoy my time to myself more than I did then and I'm not in any way ready to give that up.

I'm working on me and I need that time for me, and that's okay. Enjoy your time for you fraeuken.

fraeuken posted 8/13/2014 22:44 PM

When the right one comes along who can handle smelly kale and the need to be alone at times, I am all for it. I love sharing, intimacy and being with somebody, but never at the expense of "me". And I will grant the same "rights". Looking forward to that love again and knowing in the meantime, being on your own is not bad at all...

Lonelygirl10 posted 8/14/2014 09:18 AM

I'm starting to feel this more. My friends are going to a concert Friday night, and one girl was complaining about how she couldn't go with us because it would hurt her SO's feelings if she missed a weekend with him. And the whole time I was thinking "wow I'm so glad that I can do whatever I want to now." I love not having to consider someone else's thoughts, and I love being able to do what I want to do.

Helen of Troy posted 8/15/2014 07:35 AM

I love nights like those!
You've written in positive terms and it helps us to remember to be grateful and enjoy those moments of being able to do whatever we want.