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Came home by 6 p.m. from work. Cooked my favorite veggie (kale) just for me. Nobody complaining about the smell. Spent some time on organizing a large closet and decided to finish the job on Friday. Crashed on the couch and watching a The Good Wife in Hulu. Tomorrow my girls come home and the next days are busy with work, petsitting, kids and flying.

I love those "me" nights. Would I love to fall asleep next to somebody? Yes. Not lying. Would I want to deal with the demands of a relationship? No. So the cat will do for now while I am enjoying a level of freedom I never had before.

[This message edited by fraeuken at 10:24 PM, August 13th (Wednesday)]

I'm starting to think that if I'm in a relationship with someone who doesn't like my preferences then maybe it's not meant to be.

I enjoy my time with my SO but I am not who I was in my marriage. I enjoy my time to myself more than I did then and I'm not in any way ready to give that up.

I'm working on me and I need that time for me, and that's okay. Enjoy your time for you fraeuken.

When the right one comes along who can handle smelly kale and the need to be alone at times, I am all for it. I love sharing, intimacy and being with somebody, but never at the expense of "me". And I will grant the same "rights". Looking forward to that love again and knowing in the meantime, being on your own is not bad at all...

I'm starting to feel this more. My friends are going to a concert Friday night, and one girl was complaining about how she couldn't go with us because it would hurt her SO's feelings if she missed a weekend with him. And the whole time I was thinking "wow I'm so glad that I can do whatever I want to now." I love not having to consider someone else's thoughts, and I love being able to do what I want to do.

I love nights like those!
You've written in positive terms and it helps us to remember to be grateful and enjoy those moments of being able to do whatever we want.