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User Topic: NB - a totally selfish night
fraeuken
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Default  Posted: 10:23 PM, August 13th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Came home by 6 p.m. from work. Cooked my favorite veggie (kale) just for me. Nobody complaining about the smell. Spent some time on organizing a large closet and decided to finish the job on Friday. Crashed on the couch and watching a The Good Wife in Hulu. Tomorrow my girls come home and the next days are busy with work, petsitting, kids and flying.

I love those "me" nights. Would I love to fall asleep next to somebody? Yes. Not lying. Would I want to deal with the demands of a relationship? No. So the cat will do for now while I am enjoying a level of freedom I never had before.

[This message edited by fraeuken at 10:24 PM, August 13th (Wednesday)]


Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

Posts: 1260 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: California
ProbableIceCream
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Default  Posted: 10:26 PM, August 13th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm starting to think that if I'm in a relationship with someone who doesn't like my preferences then maybe it's not meant to be.


Me, 32. DD, 8. DS, 6 (deceased).

Posts: 851 | Registered: Nov 2012
persevere
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Default  Posted: 10:34 PM, August 13th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I enjoy my time with my SO but I am not who I was in my marriage. I enjoy my time to myself more than I did then and I'm not in any way ready to give that up.

I'm working on me and I need that time for me, and that's okay. Enjoy your time for you fraeuken.


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


Posts: 4712 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
fraeuken
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Default  Posted: 10:44 PM, August 13th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When the right one comes along who can handle smelly kale and the need to be alone at times, I am all for it. I love sharing, intimacy and being with somebody, but never at the expense of "me". And I will grant the same "rights". Looking forward to that love again and knowing in the meantime, being on your own is not bad at all...


Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

Posts: 1260 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: California
Lonelygirl10
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Default  Posted: 9:18 AM, August 14th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm starting to feel this more. My friends are going to a concert Friday night, and one girl was complaining about how she couldn't go with us because it would hurt her SO's feelings if she missed a weekend with him. And the whole time I was thinking "wow I'm so glad that I can do whatever I want to now." I love not having to consider someone else's thoughts, and I love being able to do what I want to do.


30 Bgf
Dday: April 2013
Relationship ended: January 2014

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Helen of Troy
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Content  Posted: 7:35 AM, August 15th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I love nights like those!
You've written in positive terms and it helps us to remember to be grateful and enjoy those moments of being able to do whatever we want.

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