I was married for 18.5 years to a jerk. He has two brothers and one sister. His brother was married 7 years ago, no kids. When xwh and I split I was the bad person and his family sided in with him and ow/nw said I "deserved to be cheated on"
My girls come home from a multi week summer visit with dad. They tell me that ow/nw told them that Uncle Y's wife had an affair, and that Uncle Y found out from the other man's BW. It was an emotional affair turning or turned physical. XBIL was going to commit suicide upon hearing the news and was Baker Acted into a psychiatric hospital for two weeks. He is now living with my girls' grand parents/his parents during the separation. I am still wondering why ow/nw told my teens in the first place, and how was she NOT ASHAMED to tell this story when their own dad cheated with other women and she as one of them, and that she was an OW herself.
But she too lives in a warped reality where she tells people xwh and I were already apart and they met on yahoo personals. Um no and anyone with any smarts could figure out the timeline of their "dating" and his divorce from me. And they married 3 months after it was final. He knew her 6 months before that. Coco puffs!
It kind of makes sense how xwh has been even more rude over emails, he can't face what he did now seeing his brother in so much emotional pain, and he has zero conscious self awareness so he was acting out in other ways- a type of projection, by being extra mean to me.
How is it that this family excused what one son did but now that their other son is a BH, change their tune about infidelity? One of their own cheated did the same thing to someone else!
Ok I didn't go to the psyche ward but like most BS, I was plenty screwed up emotionally... AND there were three children involved!
What a bunch of sick fucks who are in state of denial. Or maybe I can take comfort in knowing that now they realize ,but just keep quiet about, the damage xwh caused his own children and me. Do they really get it now? I know I shouldn't be concerned, it's just that I still carry small resentment when people don't realize things or when I don't feel validated.
Also xbil is not a jerk; totally different personality than xwh. One day during this last summer visit, xbil took my girls (his nieces) to a fun day in big city. This is something their own father would never do, he's too selfish. That's just an example. I feel sorry for him, but I won't be reaching out, that isn't my place.
Just wanted to rant. Thanks for reading.