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IrishGirlVA posted 8/14/2014 12:27 PM

Well, so much for my NB.

Last summer, after Sasquatch moved out, I became a hermit and started binging on all the foods I eliminated from my diet to feel better and look better. Subsequently, I gained 40 pounds of the 60 I lost. But recently I starting to see the scale go down. Anyway, earlier this year my girlfriend (who lives in another state and hardly see) suggested we take a trip to the Bahamas in May. I was so excited. Booked the flight and the hotel and we were set! Then, in late April/early May, her son was really sick and he was going in for test after test. Still don’t know what is going on with him. So we decided then to delay the trip to this month. We were to leave on Saturday morning. She just called me to say her father-in-law (since she was 6yrs old) passed away of a massive heart attack. My heart breaks for her and I understand she can’t go.

She suggested I still go but I don't feel comfortable going there alone. I briefly thought about it but realized that she was really looking forward to this trip too. So, I’ll reschedule. I haven’t even called the travel department yet (booked through Expedia) to see if our plane tickets can be transferred – again. I don't even know when to reschedule it for and I can't call her to ask right now.At least I know I can cancel the room at the resort with no fee. Just have to do by tonight.

I’m just so distraught. For my friend and the fact I had been looking forward to this vacation for MONTHS. (And yes, I feel terribly guilty for feeling pity for myself)

Luckily my work is flexible enough to move vacation time around.

Yesterday I was flying high. The weather was perfect. I left work early to enjoy the new convertible I just bought. I was able to finally feel the fresh air and truly enjoy it. I got home last night and was able to fit into a pair of jeans that I could barely squeeze into a month ago. I had a natural high and I was feeling…..sexy!

And now? Well... all I want to do is eat a Big Mac with fries and a coke.

[This message edited by IrishGirlVA at 12:29 PM, August 14th (Thursday)]

tushnurse posted 8/14/2014 12:52 PM

So sorry that things got cancelled AGAIN. How disappointing. I just had a vacation that had it been cancelled I would have had a serious come apart. So I get feeling bummed.

Now do NOT go get that nasty food. Instead think of something fun to do in your area over a 3 day weekend, and take one day off to just enjoy it away from work.

Sorry about your friends loss as well.

Just remember when you finally do go on this trip it's gonna be worth it.

better4me posted 8/14/2014 13:21 PM

Of course you are disappointed and feeling sorry for yourself as well as sad for your gf's loss. All of those emotions can exist at the same time. It's a perfectly human reaction to this set of circumstances.

Step away from the Big Mac. Go make yourself something healthy and delicious for dinner. Go for a walk. Get some exercise. That will make you feel better longer than the Big Mac will!

Can you travel to your gf's state to support her through this loss?

norabird posted 8/15/2014 13:01 PM

(((IrishGirl))))

IrishGirlVA posted 8/15/2014 13:09 PM

Thank you for sympathizing with me! :)

I stayed away from the Big Mac. And since I had the days off next week anyway, I decided to use three of them and take a short trip to VA Beach. It's cheaper to spend the night and not as crowded during the week. Not exactly what I had in mind but I need some R&R!

And I gave blood today. So doing something nice for someone else made me feel better.

wontdefineme posted 8/15/2014 18:48 PM

Maybe add a third friend to the trio to save from cancellation next time.