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♂ 29322
Member # 29322
Default  Posted: 1:42 PM, August 14th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When the STBX throws an empty hug or kiss my way and says she loves me and how she wants to give "us" a shot after S/D. And then the phone bill shows a dozen texts back and forth with OM moments before / after these empty gestures. Going no contact in two weeks will be a relief.


Posts: 1511 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: WI
♂ 43418
Member # 43418
Default  Posted: 1:48 PM, August 14th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The oral flatulence is truly amazing, isn't it? Just when you think that nothing that you hear will ever surprise you, they go one better!! I thought I was all out of 'WTFs' at one point, but man, was I ever wrong on that one.

to be honest, it'd be genuinely friggin' hilarious if it wasn't for, y'know, the unfortunate fact that we're still married to 'em.

Me: Former BH
Divorced Q2 2015
At this stage, I'm pretty much bulletproof.

Do no harm. But take no shit.

Posts: 1056 | Registered: May 2014 | From: USA
♂ 31504
Member # 31504
Default  Posted: 3:03 PM, August 14th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It really is just ridiculous. Its like they regressed back to middle school. I'm your friend. No wait, I hate you now. No wait, I'll be your friend later. Just wait,

Ummm no, no we won't! Buh Bye!

Me BH-45 @ Dday
Her WW-44 @ Dday
D-Day 4/11/10
Divorced 9/13/2010
XWW Married OM 5/23/2011

It only hurts when I breathe.

Posts: 774 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Coeur d 'Alene, Idaho
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Member # 44136
Default  Posted: 3:29 PM, August 14th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hurtin-What was your response to his 'let's get back together' statement? My question is, what possessed them to think one way and act another simultaneously? I don't think I will ever understand their mentality.

Posts: 106 | Registered: Jul 2014
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Member # 44064
Default  Posted: 3:44 PM, August 14th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Won't it be a relief when the urge to play detective to figure out the real truth goes away? I can only imagine the feeling of calm that occurs when the urge to check her cell phone records, trying to see who she's texting, divining her whereabouts at lunch, smelling for tail-tell signs of cigarette smoke, etc., just stops.

The energy and toll it takes to avoid being made a continual fool is exhausting. I hope your relief comes soon as the NC starts - I have a long way to go until I have that.

BS (me): 47
WW: 40; POS AP 33
Together for 8 yrs
Married 7 yrs, 10 days
DD: 4 yrs; Step-D: 19 yrs
DDay: 17-Sep-2013
Divorced May 2015

Posts: 135 | Registered: Jul 2014 | From: Maryland
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Default  Posted: 4:08 PM, August 14th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Unreal that they think they can just jerk us around after crushing our hearts.
I am looking forward to being able to breathe again. I am looking forward to the day when he no longer matters to me just like I no longer matter to him...

me- BW him-cheater (2 during our marriage, still with dirty whore)
together 10 yrs, married 7.5
kids- 2 DD and 1 DS
DD#1-Jan 2014,#2-2/2014, #3-3/2014
Filed 4/2014, divorce final 5/2015

Posts: 695 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: Iowa
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Default  Posted: 4:18 PM, August 14th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

YUP!!! I know this story all toooooo well. Just last December (before DD) and while we were separated but working on getting back together my then wife was saying all kinds of sweet things to me, calling me, even video messaging me while we were in two separate parts of the state spending xmas with our own families. oh wait, that's not right!!! I was spending xmas with family and she was screwing her coworker and at his family's house! What a piece of work she is. And she even allowed me to take her to a romantic get away when I came back in town. She actually made me think she loved me. I bet that's who she was texting that night while we were in the hotel suite. That's right...almost forgot that fact.

Or the time after DD and all the false Rs she would come tell me all kinds of things while still talking to the OM. Amazing..these kinds of people are real pieces of work. You think people mature with age...guess not.

34 - BS - Divorced

Posts: 872 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: Southern California
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