My therapist once told me that I needed to forgive myself. I thought she meant to forgive myself for my mistakes in my marriage. But then someone on here (I wish I could remember who it was) said that we need to forgive ourselves for letting our WS treat us so badly. That made perfect sense to me! I think back to the time of his affair and the things he did and wonder why did I not fight harder?! I knew something was up and I just let it happen! Why?!?!? Because I trusted him and wanted to believe the bullshit he was telling me? Because I believed that he loved me above all else?! Because I believed he would never do this to me? Yes to all of the above! How could I be so stupid and spineless?!? And, more importantly, how do I forgive myself so that I can move on and stop romaticizing the man who broke my heart so completely? I know what he is now, so why does it make me sad that he isn't fighting for me?!