Remember, she may not realize it, but by outing the A she put herself in a worse position than she put you in. At first people may look at you funny because your H cheated on you, but pretty quickly people will realize - perhaps without knowing it - that ow is a predator, a person who needs to be defended against.
Are you in IC? A good IC could help you over the hump.
Hold your head high. Your H cheated because of his problems. Ow cheated because of hers. You're clean in this.
I hope you can find a way to play hockey. It's possible that if you show up with your head held high, ow will find her shame and withdraw. Even better, if you show up with your head held high, ow may even become irrelevant to you.
Besides, aren't skating, checking, and whacking a puck with a stick good ways to get some aggression out?
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Then you should be good to go for the coed team. But you should expect her to, at least once, show up to try and start trouble. Don't let her breaking the agreement and showing up keep you from playing. She does not get to have that kind of control over you.
Now, depending on what kind of push back you wan to do. She broke the agreement by showing up. And the agreement was between her and your husband, not you. If you wanted to, you could sign up for the women's league.
Show up unexpectedly in her safe zone and play. She can't do anything about it. What do you think the other women in the league would say when they find out she whores around with married men? I bet a bunch of them are married and would immediately think of any times she spoke with their husbands.
Don't not play because if her. And play whatever damn league you want to.
She's the one that should be embarrassed and she's the one married women would loathe if they all knew the truth. Don't be afraid to broadcast her sluttiness. She thinks she can control you by telling people. Turn that back around on her. She's mistaken about the impression she makes by telling.
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Delay is the deadliest form of denial. - C. Northcote Parkinson
Your standards aren't up for negotiation just because he/she can't meet them.
Please follow the Reconciliation Forum guidelines. There is no OW venting or namecalling in this forum.
Thank you.
I don't know the refs in your league,,of course,,but if OW happened to be on the other team and the ref was Mr. Magoo,, and you had a clear angle,to the boards and her head was down and maybe you forgot to keep your stick down.....
Nah. This isn't Slapshot, is it? Is your last name Hansen by any chance?
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