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I just learned from my B.S. that based on her and her brother's deductions, that my A began a year ago today, which is why today's been a somber one. She has been dreading today coming for the last few days, however, I didn't know that there had been a specific day pinpointed. Nonetheless, I am reminding her that I am here, and hurting and healing with her, and listening to her, and DOING WHAT I HAVE TO DO to heal this, and that I want to make new memories; ones actually worth commemorating.

I would say that in 9 months perhaps there'll be a commemoration of when I ended the A, but honestly, I don't even want to focus on that.

In my facebook account, starting yesterday, I have begun writing one thing per day that I like/love/find memorable about my B.S., and they are posted publically to all friends in my facebook (which isn't many). They're not just sentences; I'm shooting for essays. I am going to do this every day for 365 days. Today was day 2. This is being done so these days have something new to remember, something really worth commemorating.

I can only hope they truly help.

What a nice thing to do.

Be careful - if you miss a day, she may pounce on that as you not caring. It is a big committment, and I commend you for doing it!

How could I forget. Really.

Thank you for that. (( ))

[This message edited by RMarred at 9:20 PM, August 15th (Friday)]

Maybe it would be a good idea to ask her if any other specific dates are on her mind? Then you would have time to prepare and focus on healing for those days.

I had a few. They weren't just start and end days. There were a few other significant events that stuck in my head. It helped me to share them with him. Also him acknowledging they had meaning comforted me and made me feel like he understood the gravity of what transpired.

Good luck on your daily writing. That could be something special for the two of you to share.