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eyenight posted 8/18/2014 19:05 PM

I had a class on Friday and mow was in the class. What I did took major balls on my part. I sat next to her. She had no idea it was me until we did the introduction of ourselves. I watched her get lower in her chair. During the class she started passing me notes. I first was im sorry for what I did. Which I said your sorry you got caught. Then it was other ramblings. I let her have it. I said bf was given options. He gave you up with out thinking about it.he could of warned you that I was going to tell your bh
But didn't even make an effort. He threw you under the bus without hesitation to fend for yourself. He didn't care. More than once in his messages he told you carrying on like this was wrong. It should stop then you replied with something sexual to keep it going. How desperate do you have to be? It was pathetic. You threw yourself at him like a cheap piece of meat. That's what you are. One step closer to being a hooker. Im done writing about this you are below me and will never be at my level.
I think I made her cry. She didn't come back to class after lunch.
Ive been a real bitch to bf since friday ifeel bad cause hes beem working hard doing what I ask.
It will pass

Amazonia posted 8/19/2014 09:11 AM

Why on earth did you choose to sit beside her?

Williesmom posted 8/19/2014 11:46 AM

What Ama said. Step away from the drama - you're better than that. Now she knows that she's in your head.

Kajem posted 8/19/2014 15:18 PM

She's nothing worth your time. Get mad at him,he's the one who needs your anger. He owed you fidelity. She's nothing.

fireproof posted 8/19/2014 17:44 PM

I don't blame the OW I wasn't married to her. My ex is responsible because he let her destroy our family.

I think if it helps you then you were able to release what you needed but I think it would bring more pain to you and it gives her satisfaction that you care.

I met the OW and I think of her as smoke- she is nothing to me and I will not lower my standards to respond to her.

Everyone is different - now that it has passed focus on you and your future.

Catwoman posted 8/19/2014 20:04 PM

Hasn't stirring the shit gotten you into trouble before? It seems like you can't resist an opportunity to create a stink. Why is that? Didn't you have a situation at work here you were taken to task because you mixed it up with a boyfriend's former flame?

Sooner or later it is likely you will tangle with the wrong person and be the recipient of some ugly consequences. I would think you would want to be classy and above the fray vs. wielding the spoon that stirs the shit.

Just my observation. YMMV.

Cat

persevere posted 8/19/2014 20:12 PM

I'm not one who doesn't hold some level of blame on the OW. She knew exactly what she was getting into, and she manipulated everything her way. She is now married to XWH and it is her fourth or fifth marriage.

However, that being said, I would never choose to step into that drama - I'm better than that. And so are you eyenight. It's just not worth it.

((eyenight))

eyenight posted 8/19/2014 21:43 PM

I know she is not worth my time. I wanted to face my demon so I can heal. I feel better for telling her what I thought of her. I held on to those words for so long I felt like I was getting angry at everything. I feel dignified.
Don't get me wrong bf is as much to blame as her. He is remorseful and doing what can to change the things that brought him to think this was okay. Ive dealt with bf and working on moving past it, but haven't said what I needed to say to mow now I have.

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