After sending two letters to my LTAP's BS he finally contacted my wife last night.
Lots of different feelings but the one that is getting to me is that OBS has become a real person to me.
Instead of someone who was mentioned by my LTAP he became flesh and blood, a real man, with a life, and kids.
He told my wife that him and his wife are separated. It happened before he got her letter, but he said that her letter confirmed that he couldn't stay married to her.
Lots of different feelings on my part right now. When I heard my wife read his texts to me I wanted to apologize to him. He said he doesn't think too highly of me (I don't feel to highly of myself right now either) and Its not time for that.
Many of you know I am back in a 12 step program, so when I get to the appropriate point in my program I will send him a letter apologizing for my part in the destruction of his marriage.
I know I am not the only reason why they have split, but I am one of the reasons and right now I feel terrible about it. Today it was proven again about how terrible the destruction of infidelity is.
I am proud of my wife for reaching out to him. It was the right thing to do.