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wishingitwasnt posted 8/19/2014 13:22 PM

Thought you all might like to share an email from XWW.

I sure do miss you when it comes time to make decisions. Turns out I'm this kind of indecisive person. We were better as a team. I'm just pretty lame on my own. You were my best friend for 28 years...There's got to be SOMETHING about me you miss?

I’ve been divorced for 5 years and about a month (d-day#1 was 6 years ago). And no, at this point there is nothing that comes to mind that I miss about her.

My youngest turned 18 last month. Child support ended. My oldest had a major falling out with her mother this summer. XWW has periodically pitched a fit and caused some drama with efforts to draw me in via text or email. I usually don’t respond at all. Then other times I’ll get little communications like this. I definitely will not respond.

Her plan to marry a millionaire hasn’t worked out, yet (she actually told my daughter that was her plan to support herself shortly after the divorce). Sadly for her, I am not available. That train left the station five years ago. They’ve already pulled up the tracks and put in a bike trail.

I'm doing ok.

ChangeMaker posted 8/19/2014 13:28 PM

They’ve already pulled up the tracks and put in a bike trail.

BWAAAHAAHAHAHAHAHAHA!

I'm gonna use this one!

norabird posted 8/19/2014 13:42 PM

Can you imagine still being with someone who would write this? She is pretty lame, period.

Thefly559 posted 8/19/2014 13:49 PM

wishingitwasnt thank you for this post!

brokenheartinga posted 8/19/2014 13:51 PM

Love that quote. So glad to hear
you are doing great.
Now if I could get there.

Forged1 posted 8/19/2014 13:51 PM

Sadly for her, I am not available. That train left the station five years ago. They’ve already pulled up the tracks and put in a bike trail.

I am in awe of your awesomeness.

Williesmom posted 8/19/2014 13:55 PM

Wiw!!! So glad to see you, and so glad that you're enjoying the bike trail.

I'm glad that you're doing ok.

Pass posted 8/19/2014 13:57 PM

And you, my friend, are living the dream. We can only hope that your unavailability hurts her as much (or more if that's possible) as you were hurt by her.

10yearsafter posted 8/19/2014 18:14 PM

Oh I would have replied. Is there something you miss about me. Reply "NO not a damn thing"

travels posted 8/19/2014 18:27 PM

Good to see you Wishing!!!

Guess the grass wasn't greener...

mamazen posted 8/19/2014 20:04 PM

What a nice post to read! Here's hoping we all can reach the level of wisdom and indifference you have, someday.

Even now, WH will let slip that I am a deeper person than OW, he sees that now, etc etc etc. It just pisses me off. Someday I hope to be able to roll my eyes and look at my own bike path ahead of me.

Thanks for posting.

FaithFool posted 8/19/2014 20:21 PM

Oh, that's rich...

My x wouldn't dare bring up anything like that with me.

He's facing knee replacement surgery and has to navigate a disability insurance claim without the help of a wifey, who used to manage everything (including getting him on a kick-ass insurance plan for his self-employed ass).

He always hated paperwork and bureaucracy.

Too bad so sad. Time for the big boy pants at nearly 55.

Good to hear from you wishing!

[This message edited by FaithFool at 8:23 PM, August 19th (Tuesday)]

wifehad5 posted 8/19/2014 21:06 PM

I'm doing ok.

Badhurt posted 8/19/2014 21:19 PM

Give her a real answer. Block her for your social media.
Maybe the. She will get it.
Congratulations!!!

stronger08 posted 8/20/2014 08:39 AM

Yeah it really sucks when they get exactly what they thought they wanted. Reality beats the shit out of fantasy, each and every time.

sparkysable posted 8/20/2014 10:00 AM

Oh? Poor XWW. Fantasyland not so fantastic anymore? That greener grass is actually spray-painted manure shavings? Such a shame.

Since you dont' often respond, I wouldn't be against a "No, not one thing" kind of a response.