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Topic: Started the 180
Member # 39709
Posted: 2:10 PM, August 19th (Tuesday), 2014
After crying, pleading and fighting for some emotional intimacy from my FWH for 1 1/2 years I have decided to do the 180. I am just 2 days in and this is SO hard. He seems totally unfazed by my pulling back. It hurts so much. I really feel like I should just start making plans for divorce now. When I mentioned divorce vs dissolution to him he didn't seem upset at the idea. But I'm so tired of pouring my heart out to him and getting nothing back but silence.
Posts: 84 | Registered: Jun 2013
Member # 35812
Posted: 4:26 PM, August 19th (Tuesday), 2014
The only person that you can change, is you. If it's been 1.5 years and your WH has withheld his heart and emotions from you all of this time, then I hope that the 180 can give you the detachment to decide exactly what you want and need, and the determination to seek that. It sounds like your bucket of emotions have all been poured out, and your WH has done nothing to help you start to re-fill that bucket. If you've run dry, then it is probably time to see a lawyer and seek that next step. (((hugs)))
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
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