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Way to stay connect douchenozzle!!!!!

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 Hopeful74 (original poster member #44003) posted at 8:49 PM on Tuesday, August 19th, 2014

Are you freaking kidding me!!!! Mr. 'I will never let anyone come between me and my kids again' really takes the cake! It has been 2 weeks since I have invoked NC, except or the kids and finances. Well, apparently my STBXH is a little bit on the stupid side. He has not once called my house to talk to the kids or check on them between visits. So today he texted me, asking for my babysitter's phone number. I sent it to him and did not ask questions. I just assumed one if his whores must have needed a sitter. No, he called to talk to my son. To find out if he has been doing push ups for baseball season!!!!!! What. The. Fuck!!!!!! (Sorry about the language if it offends you) Seriously!!!!!!!! Who does that and what was the point?!?! I have a landline and have never stopped him from calling the kids! I think his flavor of the moment must have f$&@'ed his brain loose!!!!!!

Me: BW
2 DD: 18 & 5; 1 DS: 10
Divorced May 2015
'Everytime you get up and get back in the race, one more small piece of you starts to fall into place.' -

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devistatedmom ( member #24961) posted at 8:57 PM on Tuesday, August 19th, 2014

Honestly? I would send him an email stating that he is not to be calling the babysitters for things like this. The babysitter's number is for emergencies only. If he wants to talk to son, he can call the house when son is home.

BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.

WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.

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ChangeMaker ( member #43899) posted at 9:04 PM on Tuesday, August 19th, 2014

I have no real comment other than I'm extremely upset that I didn't coin the term Douchenozzle.

I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. I will permit it to pass over me and through me.

DDay - June 2014
DD 2008 & 2011
Divorced April 1, 2015

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 Hopeful74 (original poster member #44003) posted at 9:08 PM on Tuesday, August 19th, 2014

I agree. I think he was just trying to get a reaction out of me, as that has always been his MO. I thinks I will just give him crickets on this one! No reaction at all is my best avenue. She did not seem bothered by it at all. If it becomes a problem, I will def be sending an email!

Me: BW
2 DD: 18 & 5; 1 DS: 10
Divorced May 2015
'Everytime you get up and get back in the race, one more small piece of you starts to fall into place.' -

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 Hopeful74 (original poster member #44003) posted at 9:09 PM on Tuesday, August 19th, 2014

I can't take credit for the term. Someone on here used it before and it just seems to fit!!!

Me: BW
2 DD: 18 & 5; 1 DS: 10
Divorced May 2015
'Everytime you get up and get back in the race, one more small piece of you starts to fall into place.' -

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 Hopeful74 (original poster member #44003) posted at 12:28 AM on Wednesday, August 20th, 2014

I have done very well with not responding to asshat's bizarre behavior, if I do say so myself. Absolutely no reaction!!! It has actually been fairly easy. When I first found out, I was livid. But, I came on her and vented and that took care of my anger!! Much more relaxed tonight!!

Me: BW
2 DD: 18 & 5; 1 DS: 10
Divorced May 2015
'Everytime you get up and get back in the race, one more small piece of you starts to fall into place.' -

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 Hopeful74 (original poster member #44003) posted at 12:37 AM on Wednesday, August 20th, 2014

Oh! I almost forgot! My son called him (on his own. I did not know he was calling him) when we got home (from my landline!!!) and asked him about this weekend. His dad told him he has them next weekend. My son told him, 'no, mom said you have us this weekend) douchenozzle can't even remember it had been almost 2 weeks since he had them!!! Seriously, wtf?!?!?!

Me: BW
2 DD: 18 & 5; 1 DS: 10
Divorced May 2015
'Everytime you get up and get back in the race, one more small piece of you starts to fall into place.' -

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deena ( member #27275) posted at 6:13 AM on Wednesday, August 20th, 2014

Wow. Alzheimer's already!

It's so touching to see him so connected with the kids!!

Good for your son for pointing it out to him!!

Leaves you out of it

Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it's
better to leave them broken than to hurt
yourself putting it back together.



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 Hopeful74 (original poster member #44003) posted at 6:23 AM on Wednesday, August 20th, 2014

Yeah Deena, a serious case of Alzheimer's! The kind that makes you forget that you're married with 3 kids at home!!

Me: BW
2 DD: 18 & 5; 1 DS: 10
Divorced May 2015
'Everytime you get up and get back in the race, one more small piece of you starts to fall into place.' -

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BtraydWife ( member #42581) posted at 6:24 AM on Wednesday, August 20th, 2014

Well fitness is important.

Do you think the babysitter will be willing to tell him not to call unless he has an emergency?

Me-BW
Him-WH
DD-March 2010

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 Hopeful74 (original poster member #44003) posted at 6:29 AM on Wednesday, August 20th, 2014

Btrayed wife, that is a great suggestion. I am hoping this will not be an issue since he got absolutely no response from me. Having said that, if it does become habit, then I will see if that is something she is comfortable with.

Me: BW
2 DD: 18 & 5; 1 DS: 10
Divorced May 2015
'Everytime you get up and get back in the race, one more small piece of you starts to fall into place.' -

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 Hopeful74 (original poster member #44003) posted at 7:39 PM on Thursday, August 21st, 2014

And the disconnect keeps coming! Yesterday was his 2 hour visitation day and he texted me in the am and asked if he could get them today for my DD16 parent preview. I told him no, that we were going with my family and he responded ok. That was it. Never said he could not get them last night. I figured he wa just trying to kill 2 birds with 1 stone. So than last night at about 6, which is the time he is supposes to get them. He called and told them he had some 'jobs' to finish and would not be able to get them and that he tried to switch nights. And then told tem he would see them tonight! I swear he is loco in la cabeza!!!! How can your kids be 'out of sight, out of mind?!?! Is everyone disposable in the asshat's world?!

Me: BW
2 DD: 18 & 5; 1 DS: 10
Divorced May 2015
'Everytime you get up and get back in the race, one more small piece of you starts to fall into place.' -

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