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Hopeful74 posted 8/19/2014 14:49 PM

Are you freaking kidding me!!!! Mr. 'I will never let anyone come between me and my kids again' really takes the cake! It has been 2 weeks since I have invoked NC, except or the kids and finances. Well, apparently my STBXH is a little bit on the stupid side. He has not once called my house to talk to the kids or check on them between visits. So today he texted me, asking for my babysitter's phone number. I sent it to him and did not ask questions. I just assumed one if his whores must have needed a sitter. No, he called to talk to my son. To find out if he has been doing push ups for baseball season!!!!!! What. The. Fuck!!!!!! (Sorry about the language if it offends you) Seriously!!!!!!!! Who does that and what was the point?!?! I have a landline and have never stopped him from calling the kids! I think his flavor of the moment must have f$&@'ed his brain loose!!!!!!

devistatedmom posted 8/19/2014 14:57 PM

Honestly? I would send him an email stating that he is not to be calling the babysitters for things like this. The babysitter's number is for emergencies only. If he wants to talk to son, he can call the house when son is home.

ChangeMaker posted 8/19/2014 15:04 PM

I have no real comment other than I'm extremely upset that I didn't coin the term Douchenozzle.

Hopeful74 posted 8/19/2014 15:08 PM

I agree. I think he was just trying to get a reaction out of me, as that has always been his MO. I thinks I will just give him crickets on this one! No reaction at all is my best avenue. She did not seem bothered by it at all. If it becomes a problem, I will def be sending an email!

Hopeful74 posted 8/19/2014 15:09 PM

I can't take credit for the term. Someone on here used it before and it just seems to fit!!!

Hopeful74 posted 8/19/2014 18:28 PM

I have done very well with not responding to asshat's bizarre behavior, if I do say so myself. Absolutely no reaction!!! It has actually been fairly easy. When I first found out, I was livid. But, I came on her and vented and that took care of my anger!! Much more relaxed tonight!!

Hopeful74 posted 8/19/2014 18:37 PM

Oh! I almost forgot! My son called him (on his own. I did not know he was calling him) when we got home (from my landline!!!) and asked him about this weekend. His dad told him he has them next weekend. My son told him, 'no, mom said you have us this weekend) douchenozzle can't even remember it had been almost 2 weeks since he had them!!! Seriously, wtf?!?!?!

deena posted 8/20/2014 00:13 AM

Wow. Alzheimer's already!

It's so touching to see him so connected with the kids!!

Good for your son for pointing it out to him!!

Leaves you out of it

Hopeful74 posted 8/20/2014 00:23 AM

Yeah Deena, a serious case of Alzheimer's! The kind that makes you forget that you're married with 3 kids at home!!

BtraydWife posted 8/20/2014 00:24 AM

Well fitness is important.

Do you think the babysitter will be willing to tell him not to call unless he has an emergency?

Hopeful74 posted 8/20/2014 00:29 AM

Btrayed wife, that is a great suggestion. I am hoping this will not be an issue since he got absolutely no response from me. Having said that, if it does become habit, then I will see if that is something she is comfortable with.

Hopeful74 posted 8/21/2014 13:39 PM

And the disconnect keeps coming! Yesterday was his 2 hour visitation day and he texted me in the am and asked if he could get them today for my DD16 parent preview. I told him no, that we were going with my family and he responded ok. That was it. Never said he could not get them last night. I figured he wa just trying to kill 2 birds with 1 stone. So than last night at about 6, which is the time he is supposes to get them. He called and told them he had some 'jobs' to finish and would not be able to get them and that he tried to switch nights. And then told tem he would see them tonight! I swear he is loco in la cabeza!!!! How can your kids be 'out of sight, out of mind?!?! Is everyone disposable in the asshat's world?!