I have been working on documenting a new set of boundaries with responses which I hope are non offensive. I thought I would post them here for feedback or additions you might have. I will also say that if any of these situations occur, I will discuss what occurred with my wife.
Boundary:
I will not have any conversations about personal information with anyone without your knowledge
Response:
If I am in a conversation and someone asks me a personal question, I will reply by saying that for my own reasons I am not comfortable with discussing personal things.
Boundary:
I will not have any private non professional conversations with anyone of the opposite sex
Response:
If I am in a conversation where something non professional comes up, I will respond by steering the conversation back on task or excusing myself
Boundary:
I will never have any inappropriate conversations with anyone of the any gender
Response:
If I am in a situation where inappropriate things are being said, I will politely excuse myself
Boundary:
There is absolutely no non professional touching of any kind with anyone of the opposite sex
Response:
If this were to happen, I would excuse myself from the situation immediately and follow up with a written correspondence explaining how I felt it was inappropriate. If this was a work situation, HR may need to be involved.
Boundary:
If a one on one meeting with someone of the opposite sex at work is required, the door will always be open
Response:
If I am in a meeting with a female and she closes the door, I will politely say that I would prefer the door remain open for my own personal reasons
Boundary:
I will not consume any alcohol of any kind
Response:
If I am offered alcohol, I will respond by saying no thank you, for personal reasons I stopped drinking a few years ago
Boundary:
I will not participate in dancing of any kind with anyone of the opposite sex
Response:
If I am asked to dance, I will politely say that I only dance with my wife
Boundary:
I will not view any explicit images or videos (porn)
Response:
If I am around someone who starts viewing porn, I will excuse myself and leave
Boundary:
I will never again visit a strip clubs or any place that is not something appropriate for a married man
Response:
If I am with someone who suggests going to a strip club or someplace else inappropriate, I will respond by saying I would rather go somewhere else or I will leave on my own
Boundary:
Any friends I have in the future will be friends of the marriage
Response:
If I am asked to do something with someone who would be deemed not a friend of the marriage, I will politely decline