At the one year mark, I would say that you're doing well, even though it sure as heck doesn't feel like it. The one year mark is big. Really big. It's like you're walking down a path, taking care of things as they come up, keeping a steady pace, and all of the sudden, a HUGE stake pile-drives into the path in front of you painted bright neon orange, taking you out of your normal everyday stroll. You stare at it, walk up to it, stop, and circle it a few times, watching it pulse. You finally continue to walk down your path but every so often, you have to look back to see the orange pulses, getting fainter and fainter, but still seeable.
I call these types of date or events Fish-Slaps upside the head.
Right now, both of you have a great deal of stress. You've made some serious, life-changing choices. You have this anti-versary staring you in the face. And you're facing them together. You may not be a tightly bonded couple yet, but your both walking down the same path. That's some serious progress, sistah! It really is!