Well, last night husband and I told our 7 year old daughter that daddy is going to have his own place and mommy will have her own place. Overall it went well. Yes, there were tears, but i was able to control my emotions and that helped daughter with calming down. We told her, held her as a family for a few minutes, then I took her and he left with his truck and trailer filled up.
He and I will still talk and text and see one another a lot actually. He is going to be at the house next week Friday while I go to work and he and she are going to go school shopping when she gets up. They will have a nice day together.
On the weekends he keeps her, on the Sunday he brings her back, he will mow the grass for me where he usually would anyway, and do any other things around the house that need fixed or looked at.
No more egg shells to walk on around the house either. No more wondering what daddy will be doing when daughter and I are visiting family (and he chooses not to go with us). No more saying to my mom "we need to get home so I can make dinner" when she is asking if we will stay for dinner at her house. No more feeling like I'm doing wrong when all I'm trying to do it right. No more asking husband if he wants to go do "x" with daughter and I and him saying no, then we feel obligated to stay home too, even though a fun day at the park would be nice.
Now - I haven't told my family yet. We both felt daughter needed to know first. It's her right. A couple of my friends know though, because they have been there for me when I had doubts or when I needed to vent, etc. So I kept them abreast of what was happening. Today on my way to get daughter at daycare, after i leave work, I will call my mom and tell her.
I am really dreading that more than when we told daughter last night.