Maybe a combination of both.
I am the same way with my close friends as I am with newer friends 2 plus years but I don't know if they want me to be honest. Maybe they know and I hurt them without realizing it. I don't know their history and maybe they are doing better.
For example a close friend said to be honest but she took it as I think the guy is bad for her but it is more I pointed out she has been upset for months about the same issue and it is who he is and by repeatedly going back it is going to possibly continue. I said to enjoy life without an SO. She doesn't find it exhausting but maybe it is better than her former relationships.
I take pause because I think with her she knows it but just wants someone to listen while she goes back and forth and my history is that is a lot of work regardless of her or the guy.
The other is just I hear of newer friends being lonely and well I tell them to get active and see what they enjoy and they might meet someone girls or a guy. Maybe that is annoying.
My old friends and I can just be honest and it is a ping pong of advice and it is simple. I think maybe I will need to know these people for 20 years and I may just give my opinion a rest. They do appreciate it but I feel like I am blowing their story.
Thanks for listening.
[This message edited by fireproof at 11:42 AM, August 24th (Sunday)]