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User Topic: Life in Lyrics
♀ 41915
Member # 41915
Default  Posted: 10:41 AM, August 23rd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OK, so anyone who knows me knows that I tend to live my life through the lyrics of songs. I've always been that way. I'm not a musician, but I birthed and raised one...and he'll tell you he couldn't have been anything else having grown up with me. My WSO is not really that way. He likes songs for the sound, but doesn't always listen to lyrics. This morning a song came on and I looked at him and said "I dedicate that line to you, 'I'm standing here until you make me move'" Which is one thing I had told him after DD and decision to R. I'm here until you tell me you don't want me here.

Well, he looked a little sad at that, but said "Who I Am With You... that's the song that makes me think of you and me." So I went and looked at the lyrics, because I hadn't heard the song, and it almost made me cry.

This may be silly to some of you that don't see their experiences in lyrics... but I have to tell you, that was the moment of the entire 7 months of work on R that made me understand that part of him. Completely spontaneous and unprompted it showed me he thinks about it sometimes. For the first time in a while... I feel really good about us. I thanked him for that little bit and we're going for a drive and a really good day.

Me BSO 63
Him WSO 63
Together 31years, married for a year
OW - Available. Thinks 'love' is in the way he looks at her.
Status - R and hopeful

Posts: 107 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: CA
♀ 33338
Member # 33338
Default  Posted: 10:51 AM, August 23rd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am a musician and I LOVE this. Song lyrics have become very important itch me and JM since our true R began. Next Saturday we are going to get to meet the artists (Casting Cowns) who have written and performed several of "our" songs. I'm beyond excited.

Me, 50. (How did THAT happen??)
Him, 42 (JMSSC)
married 20 years. In R. We are making it. The past does not define who we are today.

Posts: 3973 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: South Carolina
♀ 43221
Member # 43221
Default  Posted: 11:08 AM, August 23rd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Shortly after dday I told my H he had stolen music from me....I LOVE music....almost every genre....I turn it on and it plays all day and well into evening time....
The words are easier now but in the begining there were some very hard songs to listen too. I would have to turn it off...sometimes H would come in and he would hum along and I would say are hearing the lyrics??!
We go often to a restaraunt and listen to live guy did Sinatra songs....I've got you under my skin...
that stung...big time...
music is memories for me.....I think of my parents...or where I was at that point in time when the song first came out get my drift....
I have taken music BACK...

3 adult children 1D 2S
LTA 2010-2012
D-day - 11-11-2012
status - reconciling and very hopeful

" I will not define myself by what went wrong yesterday when I can draw upon Life and Love right now." R.R

Posts: 2504 | Registered: Apr 2014 | From: sunny california
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Default  Posted: 11:27 AM, August 23rd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I can very much relate to this. It is often hard to listen to my favorite artist in the presence of SAFWH without digging my fingers into his arm for emphasis.

Damn autocorrect is responsible for the silly errors, sorry!

Posts: 6203 | Registered: Sep 2009 | From: In my head
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Default  Posted: 12:48 PM, August 23rd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Look up "Come To Me" by the Goo Goo Dolls - it is our summer song, this summer.

Video is great, too.

Get a hankie!

me - BS (45) - DDay - June 2013
A was 2+ months, EA/PA
In MC & Reconciling
"Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point to move forward." -- C.S. Lewis.

Posts: 3515 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA
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Member # 43496
Default  Posted: 5:20 PM, August 23rd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm the same way with songs. Immediately after DDay all I could think of was the Joss Stone song Bruised but Not Broken.

Me: 33, BW Him: 40, fWH
Together 11y, married 8
2 children (ours) 7/11 & 3/14
D-day 4/18/14 I saw his 'other' email
Working on R, and it's working

Posts: 3226 | Registered: May 2014
♀ 43196
Member # 43196
Default  Posted: 9:25 PM, August 23rd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks, BionicGal. The tears are flowing. We just watched the video and had a sweet moment together.

DDay 11-02-13
Married 30 years
2 month PA/EA with COW
Trying to R

Posts: 784 | Registered: Apr 2014
♀ 44420
Member # 44420
Default  Posted: 9:48 PM, August 23rd (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow, BionicGal, those lyrics really really fit!

Me: BS, now 42
Him: WS, now 49
DD: May 30, 2014 (2 month affair)

2 children

Naively optimistic username (chosen in frustration when everything else I could think of was taken or too close to my real name)--but 2 years on, R is truly going well

Posts: 784 | Registered: Aug 2014
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