He refused to by any clothes or shoes for them either.. "It's part of child support" ya know.
Well then how about sending me some of that $12,000 in arrears ya owe me? Asswipe..
I'm the only one who truly cares about the kids and takes care of their responsibilities, and I refuse to let them suffer because he's a douche, so I just keep taking it up the ass..
"Diamonds aren't a girl's best friend, freedom is."
I am thinking of scanning the receipts & just emailing them to him, asking for half of it to be reimbursed. I figure worst case he'll either ignore me or tell me to go fuck myself. Best case he might through a few bucks my way.
My ex also does the, "That's what the CS is for". Even with the medical and childcare. He won't pay for what he is legally supposed to. I have never bothered asking for anything extra because I know I won't get it.
It is what it is.
However, what it says, and what he actually does, are two different things. He's also supposed to pay 50% of daycare and 50% of extra-curricular, sports, activities, etc.
Guess what? He owes me about $XXXX and I'll have to take him back to court to get it.
I bought all of her school supplies this year, she's in kindergarten so there weren't many, plus I had a lot of the stuff that she needed already. I asked XWH to buy one pack of Crayola twistables colored pencils. That's it. Haven't seen them yet. I reminded him, and he says he'll get them. We'll see.
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.
We had this "non-discussion" (my new word) too.
I put this in the NPD category for Perv because even though it's money for "here", not his home with OW, when DD gets to school with her supplies, she enjoys remembering who gave her what and tells people she shows things. He knows this and wants that attention even if he is not there. This will help him look good and supportive even though he is really not, because instead of waiting for a list and divvying, he ran ahead and bought her what he wanted.
I being me am waiting for the school's directions but did buy her a notebook and some folders so she is not empty handed the first day-his worry.
But, if I myself suggest he get anything, he has a cow-tantrum-and won't buy a thing. Even for his kid(s). So the words and actions do not match even years later. It looks good, though, as we go to court and meet with lawyers, he can mark it on his good behavior list.
So back to how to handle, splitting, 50/50 works like other expenses or I have things I like to buy and so does he...I also try to pawn off some of the more expensive things because he has more money. (He does not do it)
[This message edited by Ashland13 at 1:29 PM, August 24th (Sunday)]
You gave me nothing and now it's all I've got - Bono
A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess
Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.
The Doosh told me he would NOT be splitting the cost of back to school supplies - including clothing, shoes, backpacks- because "that's what I pay child support for!"
(Wrong- child support goes for the daily support of your children: food, housing, utilities- not to mention I support 24/7 our teen daughter because he hasn't spoken to or seen her in 14 months. So everything she needs "extra" lands in my wallet, including all meals and living expenses even though technically he should be Paying for her every other weekend)
So he then reminded me that at the beginning when I filed for divorce we both had to complete a budget of our independent living expenses. Okayyyyy- so because I filed in October, and completed that budget in Nov/Dec, I didn't have any "back to school" supplies included.
Such a Doosh.
My son is beginning band this year and I have to pay for his instrument and lessons. So I also forwarded that bill to the Doosh. He again reminded me that he pays child support for a reason, and he won't be splitting the cost of our kids' music stuff with me.
SUCH a fuckwit. So instead of telling my kid I cannot afford the extra $50 a month, I cancelled our cable subscription.
WORD TO THE WISE!!! When preparing your decree, be sure to specify all extra crap gets split 50/50!! Or else, as you can clearly see, it won't happen.
[This message edited by PurpleRose at 1:48 PM, August 24th (Sunday)]
He is current on child support, though.
Can you send him to jail for being so far behind?
me BS 52
him - 46
married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12
children - ds15 ds12
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day