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User Topic: Invites me to Bbq that his parents will attend
risingfromashes
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Default  Posted: 4:52 PM, August 24th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have been dating someone I have referred here to as the "nice man". I may have to change that reference as it sounds really bland. There is a lot of chemistry in addition to a commonality. (Same hometown, family background, sense of humor, both BS etc) between us. At first I was confused and skeptical of someone who seemed genuinely kind and caring. I am getting used to being treated like this!

My girls have been away this weekend. We have had a wonderful time attending a Celtic Festival and cooking dinner together.
This morning he casually asks what I am doing over Labor Day weekend. I have no plans and my DD's usually spend it with their dad. Nice man invites me to his BBQ. Oh yeah, then mentions his parents will be there. His adult son might also attend.

Gulp...

"You want me to meet your parents?"

Nice man replies "Why not?" as if this is a natural progression.

My thoughts are "Yes, Why not"!

This feels good. I don't feel pushed or pressured but, just happily surprised, that he seems to feel the same way.


[This message edited by risingfromashes at 4:53 PM, August 24th (Sunday)]


There is a wonderful life on the other side of hell.

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better4me
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Default  Posted: 11:30 PM, August 24th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

indeed!


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thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 11:44 PM, August 24th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Awww, nice! Be sure to tell us how it goes.


Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

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bigskyblues
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Default  Posted: 4:28 AM, August 25th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Great post!

BSB


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Dday1 7-2012
Dday2 8-2012
Divorce 9-2012

4 kids all adults.

Married 22+ years.

I have moved on and life is good!


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Bluebird26
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Default  Posted: 6:42 AM, August 25th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Nice

At least it takes some of the pressure off to if others are going to be there.

Enjoy it.


"Loving someone should not mean losing you. Love empowers you. It shouldn't erase you. - Thelma Davis.

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solus sto
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Default  Posted: 8:11 AM, August 25th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This made me smile.


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WH (Trac-fone), 53, PD
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multiple d-days
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SoHappyNow
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Default  Posted: 3:30 PM, August 25th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

SQEEE!!!!!


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Pass
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Default  Posted: 3:51 PM, August 25th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is the kind of thing that gives me hope. There are nice people out there, and some of them want an adult relationship?

This sounds nice.


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

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ChoosingHope
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Default  Posted: 3:53 PM, August 25th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi Rising! Yay you!

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risingfromashes
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Default  Posted: 5:33 PM, August 25th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is the kind of thing that gives me hope. There are nice people out there, and some of them want an adult relationship?

If not I would be happily single. I only began dating in Feb. after 2 years separation and 2 years post divorce.
The nice man is the second person I have dated. My daughters have demanded that both dates pick me up at home and introduce themselves!

My 16 yo tells me " I like the nice man, he seems like a really kind person. That other guy was a Neil Young-rockstar wanna-be".

I do believe that there are people out there that want an adult relationship and additionally are NICE!

[This message edited by risingfromashes at 5:34 PM, August 25th (Monday)]


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risingfromashes
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Default  Posted: 6:52 AM, August 28th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Update:
Out to dinner last night with the nice man. He heard from his adult daughter who lives about 3 hours away. She will be in town over the long weekend. She and her SO will be at Bbq. He told me she was fine with meeting me.
He has been divorced over 10 years and has had 2 girlfriends since.

I will be at a cookout with his entire family! He jokingly assures me that he has no plans to invite his ex-wife. Well, thank god for that!
I express some nervousness and he gives me an out. If it is too much I can meet them individually at a later date.

I'm going to go for it. I'm friendly and have decent interpersonal skills!

Who would have thought...I am in a relationship!


There is a wonderful life on the other side of hell.

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Pass
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Default  Posted: 9:54 AM, August 29th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You sound like you're ready for this!

Who would have thought...I am in a relationship!

Hurrah!


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

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norabird
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Default  Posted: 9:55 AM, August 29th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Aww have fun! Great attitude to have


Sit. Feast on your life.

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nutmegkitty
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Default  Posted: 3:34 PM, August 29th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm going to go for it. I'm friendly and have decent interpersonal skills!

yay!!! Have a great time!


me (BS)
him (NPD Ex)
2 dds
DDay 10/7/11
OW
OC

Divorced 1/17/2013

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