I know what the answer is going to be here but I need direction on how to approach it.
To make a very long story short.... WS and his best friend were both messing around with the same OW. She was the best friend's EXG. Two years ago, he got married. His BS is unaware that he was,and likely still is, cheating on her. This friend along with a third friend(who I also believe slept with the OW) facilitated and encouraged the affair. Friend #1, WS, and the Hobag had a threesome. I contracted an STD.
I confronted the friend and said that I was going to tell his wife. He begged me not to because his Bs's father had just died by suicide and she wasn't in a good place emotionally. I waited because I didn't want her to be more hurt. I think it's time now but there are some issues. WS still works with these guys. This could bring out huge issues at work. WS has been NC with both guys since a couple days after Dday. MCD pointed ˘ut that these guys are afraid of what I know and once I out them, NC very may stop. WS thinks that friend #1 has already told his wife but I don't think so. I think she would have sought out WS for more answers. My IC thinks I shouldn't be telling anyone right now because my emotional gas tank is too empty. What to do? I don't want WS to lose his job or have it be unbearable because my kids depend on his livelihood. I suspect that the friend has information that would be hurtful to me as well He isn't a nice guy. I am debating emailing him and giving him a deadline to tell her or I will. What do you all think?
On a totally different tangent, I had a dream lastnight that my SIL knew WS was cheating all along. WS told ow2(who is his sisters best friend) about LTA. I woke realizing it was true. Not only does my SIL choose to keep the ow as her friend, she knew her brother was destroying his family.