After all, you are basically saying - Oh, you're getting cake from her? Well have some cake from me too! Is that what you want?
What you are craving is the physical closeness that can "feel" like a "real" relationship. During intense sex, your body can take over and you can escape the emotional pain. But it can be the worst thing to do.
What I found out later is that by giving the high frequency, high intensity sex, I was setting myself up to later learn that on a day when we had amazing sex TWICE, he had sex with her too - same day.
Be careful - and protect yourself from more pain and hurt.
Hugs to you. Be careful.
Me BS 40
3 Kids, 9, 4 and 1
The urge is normal. Last thing you expected though huh? Yeah it kinda throws people for a loop.
Delay is the deadliest form of denial. - C. Northcote Parkinson
Your standards aren't up for negotiation just because he/she can't meet them.
I needed 3x a day every day for a couple weeks or I freaked out. I have never experienced anything like it.
Please take care of yourself. Know that if you have unprotected sex with him you are putting yourself at risk for anything he has brought home. If he is waiting for MC.... maybe he has more to confess.
Me: BW 35
Crazz: WH 33
Daughter: 4.5 Going on 16
"Dum spiro, spero." - "While I breathe, I hope."
The cure to all of life's problems is salt water; Sweat, tears, or the Sea.
Its an instinctive response but I think you need to try and resist the urge. I think he has more to tell you so minimise further damage/regret now.
Though I can't say I regret it, I can see how this can backfire and cause a distraction. WH was happy with it but also felt like I was over compensating--and I was. Had he changed his mind afterwards and decided not to at, I would have been devastated! It did jump start our dormant sex life and we are now having sex a couple to a few times a week. At first the craving was non stop and I'm glad that has settled bc it was difficult to function.
As far as STDs were concerned-- yes, I was a bit worried however, he had been sleeping with her and I for over 3 years and was last with her 4 months prior to Dday so I kinda thought I was already doomed. In retrospect, a partner can carry an STD without you getting it for a long time. So it would be best to steer clear till after testing (do it ASAP). I called my GYN and they didn't even make me go in for an appt; they set me up with bloodworm right away. Have your WH go to bc he could carry something.
His saying "no" may have made you feel rejected. Clearly, he's still attracted to you. He just may be using a part of his body that he hasn't used in a while--his brain!