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Coraline (original poster member #36434) posted at 1:13 AM on Wednesday, April 10th, 2013
I met with my lawyer yesterday, plus some other people, and I do not believe STBX knows about SI, but just in case, I'm not saying who. The main thing is that I have a PLAN right now, something to DO, so I'm not sitting around agonizing about things and worrying. And, based on the expert I talked to, I'm golden and STBX doesn't have a leg to stand on, but we're going to make sure to do even more to tip the odds in my favor. I'm not scared today. :) Oh yeah, and best $820 I will ever spend for one hour of my life.
[This message edited by Coraline at 7:14 PM, April 9th (Tuesday)]
Me: BW, 34 Him: WH, 35
3 Kids: 9, 3, and 1
Decree nisi will become absolute in January. We are DONE.
tesla ( member #34697) posted at 1:24 AM on Wednesday, April 10th, 2013
See, this is what I'm talking about! Now that you've got a plan, you just sit back and relax. Smile your Cheshire cat smile, honey. It's gonna look good on you. 
[This message edited by tesla at 7:29 PM, April 9th (Tuesday)]
"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear
disillusioned12 ( member #37542) posted at 1:25 AM on Wednesday, April 10th, 2013
Nice! This makes my day.
BS (Me)
WS (H)
Married 5 yrs; Together 10 yrs
D-Day 11/14/12
EA(PA?)
Limbo 1 month
False R 2 months.
Status: Divorce on hold
tryingagain74 ( member #33698) posted at 1:26 AM on Wednesday, April 10th, 2013
Glad to hear it, Coraline. These selfish asshats need to be put in their place.
Go get 'em!
FBS; now happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley
Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 1:46 AM on Wednesday, April 10th, 2013
"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ
Happydays ( member #38681) posted at 2:05 AM on Wednesday, April 10th, 2013
Awesome!
Best of luck for your plan.
Do share it once it's over for good.
I'm happy that you're happy.
BH 33
FWW 32
DS: 3 year old.
Dday 10/14/2012
No remorse so:
Divorced 02/15/2013. No alimony, no CS, got apartment. Won all battles and mind games off the courts.
phmh ( member #34146) posted at 2:05 AM on Wednesday, April 10th, 2013
Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!
Married: 11 years, no kids
Character is destiny
dmari ( member #37215) posted at 2:17 AM on Wednesday, April 10th, 2013
Go get 'um girl!! I'm thrilled to read this post from you!!
nutmegkitty ( member #33882) posted at 2:19 AM on Wednesday, April 10th, 2013
Me - happy!
2 DDs
Very happily divorced from an NPD since 2013.
stillstrong ( member #36144) posted at 2:20 AM on Wednesday, April 10th, 2013
Yayyyyyyyyyyyyy!
Good for you Coraline! I am SO happy to hear this. Can't wait to hear who is worth $820 and what he had to say!
Me BS 47
Him WS 51
DDay LTA Feb 21, 2006
R until DDay 2EA's 1/31/12 ONS 2/5/12 Broken NC 7/12/12
Moved out 9/12
Legally Separated 3/13
KeepOnMovin ( member #38245) posted at 2:20 AM on Wednesday, April 10th, 2013
Atta girl!!!! kick some ass!!!
Me: Creating a better life for myself
Her: Somebody else's problem
Married: 22 years
2 sons at home
1 son in college
Divorced on 9/4/14!
Often it's the deepest pain which empowers you to grow into your highest self.
Take2 ( member #23890) posted at 2:56 AM on Wednesday, April 10th, 2013
Coraline found her bitch boots!! Yay!!
"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?
SBB ( member #35229) posted at 3:17 AM on Wednesday, April 10th, 2013
The fear itself is faaaaaar worse than that fear being realised.
Buckle up friend - it's a wild ride.
I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!
Bebba1171 ( member #33857) posted at 3:33 AM on Wednesday, April 10th, 2013
You have to look at them as your legal adversary. Once the lawyers get involved, it will get rough.
Don't volunteer information, and don't let your guard down on making decisions.
Having said that, try to your best to stay cheery in front of your daughters.
You certainly have your hands full to say the least.
I really admire you ladies that do the bulk of the parenting.
Divorced by Interlocutory decree in May 2012. WW had an affair with a 66 yo doctor she worked for.
D-Day Sept 16. 2011.
BH- 54Me) / XWW 52
Two great kids that don't deserve this!
solus sto ( member #30989) posted at 4:48 AM on Wednesday, April 10th, 2013
BS-me, 62; X-irrelevant; we’re D & NC. "So much for the past and present. The future is called 'perhaps,' which is the only possible thing to call the future. And the important thing is not to let that scare you." Tennessee Williams
pointmagnet ( member #16565) posted at 4:57 AM on Wednesday, April 10th, 2013
I am at this same point.
No contact. Nothing.
Lawyers handle it all - even if you want to negotiate the settlement, let them do it.
I don't want to see that piece of trash (WW) ever again in my life.
[This message edited by pointmagnet at 10:57 PM, April 9th (Tuesday)]
Me (BS): 55
Her (WW): 53
Married: Not any more
Children: Three of them
D-Day: 10/07/07; 12/15/12
Status: Trying to move on
peridot ( member #18334) posted at 5:04 AM on Wednesday, April 10th, 2013
Awesome news!!! 
I think...therefore, I'm single.
It is what it is.
PurpleRose ( member #33129) posted at 5:26 AM on Wednesday, April 10th, 2013
So happy you have found your inner strength Coraline!!
divorced the Dooosh 8/13
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Dance like nobody is watching,
Text and email like it will be used in court someday...
Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 5:26 AM on Wednesday, April 10th, 2013
Girl, I am so proud of how far you've come. The title of this thread has me alternately cheering & LOL.
Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU
risingfromashes ( member #3903) posted at 5:31 AM on Wednesday, April 10th, 2013
All that matters is that you take care of yourself and your family.
Game on!
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