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Maia's Withdrawal Survival Guide (repost for newbies)
and I'm praying for you right now.
Happy Thanksgiving to you Maia!!
It is fantastic to "see" you and I hope things are going well in your life.
[This message edited by Ibelieveinme at 2:55 PM, January 26th (Saturday)]
I discovered that I was an idolater. I worked hard to make my god my God again.
Great post from someone who made me finally understand the other side.
bump for newbies.
bumping again in response to a pm.
hope you found it now!!!
Bumping for newbies.
Thanks so much for sharing this wonderful guideline/post.
I wish my WW would read this. It may give her some insights into how to give up OM and do what is good and right my her kids and me.
JP, sorry I didn't answer sooner, life is nutty. bumping by request....
[This message edited by Maia at 9:56 AM, April 1st (Wednesday)]
bump - I know beach mined this post and quoted me and bumps hers all the time, which is cool!! But there are things she omitted from it that I think are probably worth reading still. take it or leave it.
[This message edited by Maia at 1:27 PM, April 9th (Thursday)]
I want to add one more thing.
A lot of the obsession and pain for me rose out of control. The desire to control. I would manipulate, scheme, plan, plot and maneuver...I was extremely controlling. The controlling stemmed from fear. If you had asked me if I had anxiety I'd have said no. It wasn't something I could even see until I was free of it.
If you can't give up control, then you need to discover what it is you fear. If you are obsessed with a person or situation or dream and have made it your redemption, you need to discover what it is that you're running from. Whether it is being alone, or being abandoned, or being hurt... the only way to overcome it is to face it, to have love come into those terrified places in you, and to release the fear. You have to go into those places and reject the deep-seated lies you have believed and are acting on.
You're going to vacillate between controlling and hiding, with a combo of both, until you overcome your fears and heal. I'll reiterate, if you haven't read them...Captivating by John and Stasi Eldredge and Wild At Heart by John Eldredge and The Journey of Desire by Eldredge... they have been essential to me. If you're still fighting the battle and losing, you might pick them up, get the workbooks... it is worth it.
k... hope that helps.