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User Topic: Support Through Prayer
Feeling so alone
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Default  Posted: 8:37 PM, May 11th (Friday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Please remember me in your prayers, as I remember ya'll. I am having a real tough time at controlling my emotions, especially anger.

Sometimes I feel like the devil is trying to steal my sanity but I refuse to give it up.

I pray to be filled with the Holy Spirit so that there is no room left for anything else.


Together we're working through an LTA

If a man says something in the woods and there's not a woman there to hear it, is he still wrong?


Posts: 1357 | Registered: May 2007
akaKatie
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Default  Posted: 10:23 PM, May 11th (Friday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You are all constantly in my prayers. I think and pray for you all.

For me, I'm just giving it all to God - but find that I need to be in constant prayer - both praise and intercession - as it gives me strength to be constant and not be swayed.

Love to you all.


Me - BS, 58 (I'm Katie)
Him - WS, 60
Friends since 1965, together since 1968, married in 1972
3 adult children
LTA - EA/PA/EA 1993(?)-2000
OW: Obsessed with H since 1965, continues "friendship" with MIL
D-Day: H told me May 2006

Posts: 210 | Registered: Jan 2007 | From: By the water
Maia
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Default  Posted: 5:35 AM, May 12th (Saturday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

you are so precious. all of you.

praying for you all.


We will miss you Unicornsearcher. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Xf-Lesrkuc

Posts: 6152 | Registered: Sep 2005 | From: I am a Bluegrass-American
stillbelievin
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Default  Posted: 9:28 AM, May 12th (Saturday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I pray that all mothers have a wonderfully blessed day tomorrow.

I will be away for all of next week, but will be praying for everyone on the list while I am gone.

Don't forget that "Greater is HE that is IN you than he that is in the World" and "We can do all things through Christ who strengthens us".

Still Believin


Me: FWS
Him: BS
Married for 29 years.
Reconciling and looking forward to getting our lives back! Praise God we are getting there a day at a time!

Posts: 130 | Registered: Mar 2006
Maia
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Default  Posted: 6:05 PM, May 12th (Saturday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

please pray for Empty and LostinTX

I'm praying for all.


We will miss you Unicornsearcher. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Xf-Lesrkuc

Posts: 6152 | Registered: Sep 2005 | From: I am a Bluegrass-American
tater
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Default  Posted: 9:26 AM, May 13th (Sunday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Guys, please say a prayer for me. I'm just having a hard time. Wh wants to R, but wants to do things at his own pace and is having a hard time forgiving me for the things he perceived I did in our marriage before his A. (Mainly not making him a priority-he felt abandoned). Everytime we have a conversation that gets us closer, something happens and we take 3 steps back. He doesn't want to be 'crowded' but doesn't like when I'm distant and give him the space he wants.

Feelingsoalone-praying for you to keep you sanity.
Empty, LostinTx saying a prayer for you too.

Peace to us all.


Me: BS 40 (Yikes)
WH: 40 (LTA)
3 children 12, 7 and 5

Posts: 1125 | Registered: Oct 2006 | From: emotional rollercoaster in the midwest
akaKatie
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Default  Posted: 11:11 AM, May 13th (Sunday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Praying for all and special blessings and love to mothers everywhere.

Gratefulness to mothers who nurtured and protected and loved us. Forgiveness to mothers whose own wounds and fears and poor choices hurt us.

For me, I love my mother, am grateful for her, and I forgive her too.


Me - BS, 58 (I'm Katie)
Him - WS, 60
Friends since 1965, together since 1968, married in 1972
3 adult children
LTA - EA/PA/EA 1993(?)-2000
OW: Obsessed with H since 1965, continues "friendship" with MIL
D-Day: H told me May 2006

Posts: 210 | Registered: Jan 2007 | From: By the water
grievingwife
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Default  Posted: 5:51 PM, May 13th (Sunday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hello & Happy Mother's Day to all moms on this board.

This is my first post to SI. My husband revealed to me a little over a year ago his infidelity with one of my closest friends. I'm thankful after reading so many posts here on SI, that their "affair" never was consummated fully. His "boundaries" were no kissing, fondling, or intercourse. As best as I can figure out....the affair lasted close to ten years from beginning to end. It has been over for almost 6 yrs, but as far as the hurt & despair I feel...it might as well have been yesterday!

We are trying to reconcile by the Grace and strength God gives...but I am very weak! My husband hung the moon and stars in my mind. He was the MOST GODLY man I'd ever known! He led our home, ministered and taught our 5 children daily in the ways of the Lord & I loved him with everything I had. He was in no way perfect...but perfect FOR ME! I loved him inspite of his faults & flaws.

Our children were told this past week of their father's sin. It was just time. The kids are 18, 16, 14, 10, & 6yo. The older ones have more understanding than the younger ones, of course.


I think this board has a lot of good info on it, but I'm weary of getting ungodly advice. I'm amazed at how my feelings/emotions line up exactly with every other betrayed spouse. I guess at our core...believers or not believers...God created our beings the same. Even when we are new creatures in Christ... the core of who we are seems to be the same. It's been interesting to me.

I would appreciate your prayers as I continue to work through the mess. My husband has no real memory of what went on...how he felt about HER...or much of anything else. Since he disclosed this mess to me of his own accord, I'm suppossed to appreciate that and think he's not holding back anything intentionally. Sadly, that is not the way I feel at all. I feel there are things that he does withhold, but he insists that isn't so.

We are getting ready, I hope, to go to a marital intensive week. I think it is our last hope. I'm stuck in this hurt/pain/anger cycle. I can't seem to move past it for very long.

Praying for all of you too,
Grievingwife


Posts: 20 | Registered: May 2007
just_s
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Default  Posted: 8:47 PM, May 13th (Sunday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Welcome Grieving - so sorry to find you here. Yes - it is hard to always react in a Godly manner. I often wonder if I had focused more on that, would my H not have done it again. Is it b/c I was not faithful enough in prayer for him.

Praying for you all tonight. This has been a bittersweet day - mother's day. Peace to all tonight. S


Seek JOY

DDay - 12/14/06


Posts: 647 | Registered: Jan 2007 | From: North Carolina
unicornsearcher
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Cool  Posted: 9:38 PM, May 13th (Sunday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Welcome Greiving...

WS was admitted to the hospital, please pray from him. It could be food poisoining or something more serious, don't know yet. He had gone to urgent care Thurs due to a lot of dizziness, but started feeling ill after eating a hamburger yesterday (it was all he ate all day) & got worse today...



11/02 Busted WH 4+ cheating yrs, 11/06 Busted [Month Long Lustfest]. 2/1/08 admits false version of betrayals, so no full disclosure / "whole truth" yet. '09 Together, great work in progress. '12 Still gladly united.

Posts: 14209 | Registered: Jan 2003 | From: Calif
Gingersnap
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Default  Posted: 9:49 PM, May 13th (Sunday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Please pray for surviving2007 - she is having a hard day in NC

We're here Surviving07!

Edited to add praying for uni's H and grievingwife

[This message edited by Gingersnap at 11:25 PM, May 13th (Sunday)]


~ it's just a matter of pride, but that's all I've got left ~ damageplan.

Posts: 1085 | Registered: Dec 2006 | From: California
Maia
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Default  Posted: 8:30 AM, May 14th (Monday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

grieving - when you post, ask specifically for Christians to respond. they will. (doesn't mean all the advice will be godly!!) and don't discount the advice of those of other faiths. I've found that God uses all of us and many wise good people can bless you, no matter what they profess. just pay attention to the spirit as you read/listen.

praying for all of us, will try to repost the list tonight.

my request is just that I can get my work done.

I got attacked by H's sister yesterday at a mother's day event, it was pretty painful. I'm going to call her and confront her in love in a few days, please pray for that too. Apparently she is packing around a lot of bitterness and anger towards me. I understand it, just pray that God moves her heart and gives me the words to say.

thanks


We will miss you Unicornsearcher. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Xf-Lesrkuc

Posts: 6152 | Registered: Sep 2005 | From: I am a Bluegrass-American
Gingersnap
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Default  Posted: 9:44 AM, May 14th (Monday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Feeling very devalued and alone.

Praying


~ it's just a matter of pride, but that's all I've got left ~ damageplan.

Posts: 1085 | Registered: Dec 2006 | From: California
unicornsearcher
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Cool  Posted: 10:50 AM, May 14th (Monday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

H will be kept tonite in the hospital too. It does seem to be food poisoning & luckily is not the deadly kind. He is feeling better, they are taking good care of him.

Thanks for all your prayers!


11/02 Busted WH 4+ cheating yrs, 11/06 Busted [Month Long Lustfest]. 2/1/08 admits false version of betrayals, so no full disclosure / "whole truth" yet. '09 Together, great work in progress. '12 Still gladly united.

Posts: 14209 | Registered: Jan 2003 | From: Calif
grievingwife
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Default  Posted: 2:20 PM, May 14th (Monday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

gingersnap...
I know the feelings! I shared with my husband last night about how I feel of no value to him. How he dishonored me to this OW (MY friend!) and that NOW...it's up to HIM to rebuild that! This morning he's trying! Thank God!
My prayers are with you.

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Gingersnap
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Default  Posted: 3:55 PM, May 14th (Monday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

grieving - so happy to hear he's trying. Be careful and watch for false R signs. They hurt more than dday.

Thank you for your prayers. Praying for all who are hurting.


~ it's just a matter of pride, but that's all I've got left ~ damageplan.

Posts: 1085 | Registered: Dec 2006 | From: California
just_s
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Default  Posted: 8:44 PM, May 14th (Monday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Praying for all tonight.

Uni- good news!

Ginger - I'm right there with you. So sorry you're here with me.

Maia - prayers for your SIL and wisdom.

Grieving - prayers for continued progress.

Feeling, Katie, tater and ALL the rest - peace be with you tonight. S


Seek JOY

DDay - 12/14/06


Posts: 647 | Registered: Jan 2007 | From: North Carolina
Gingersnap
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Default  Posted: 9:34 PM, May 14th (Monday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

S - cannot Pm you - you're at your limit

Just wanted you to know how much safer I feel knowing I'm not alone.

Praying for all.


~ it's just a matter of pride, but that's all I've got left ~ damageplan.

Posts: 1085 | Registered: Dec 2006 | From: California
comingundone
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Default  Posted: 9:52 PM, May 14th (Monday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Praying for all for that peace that passes understanding.


Me/FWS-45
Him/BS-44
2 great kids(15,11)
1 high-maintenance dog
Love isn't in the falling, it's in the staying. ♥

Posts: 1402 | Registered: Oct 2006 | From: Midwest
tater
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Default  Posted: 9:55 PM, May 14th (Monday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

grieving-welcome and sorry you're here.

uni-praying for you H.

Maia-praying that your SIL will release her anger. Praise that you handled it gracefully.

Ginger-praying for you, too.

Peace to all God bless.


Me: BS 40 (Yikes)
WH: 40 (LTA)
3 children 12, 7 and 5

Posts: 1125 | Registered: Oct 2006 | From: emotional rollercoaster in the midwest
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