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Default  Posted: 12:40 PM, October 15th (Thursday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I will definitely be praying. :)

I am looking for prayers for my situation. I have three children, and I have absolutely no energy to do anything anymore after dday, or after the shock wore off. I need it to do homework with them and to be there for them. Also, I need a job right now. Had a great job but because of the economy got laid off. I am alone because my husband lives abroad and sees them when he comes home.

I am praying or I mean need prayers for Pro-activeness and energy to just get things done. I'm completely flat.

Thank you so much.

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Default  Posted: 2:13 PM, October 15th (Thursday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


May God come close to you and angels wings come to help lift your spirits and energy level.

May the words you need from the Bible come to speak to you. Lord, there is a need for some focus and energy to come to the heart of BoardPearl. She is taking on the responsibility of her children with as much power and strength and she humanly can, but could use some help from you right now.

I hope that know that the trials you face are hard, but the faith can grow in such times. It may not come they way we think it might, but there is help on the way. I have great faith in that.

Blessings be yours.


Innocent people generally want to get to the bottom of things. Guilty people usually want the discussion to be over as soon as possible.

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Default  Posted: 12:46 PM, October 16th (Friday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Thank you so much for your prayers. Also to anyone else who may have prayed.

God bless you,

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Default  Posted: 1:35 PM, October 16th (Friday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just thought this could benefit some here.

To those of you who are hoping to reconcile here is a Word for you:
God's Word says that He's chosen a Christian mate for each of you! Sometimes it's hard to step outside your situation long enough to see that following God means letting go of what lies behind and trusting God to bring you into His plan for your life.

There is nothing wrong with praying to be reconciled because your heart is aching, but wanting your old relationship more than you want God's plan won't change God's mind.
Submitting to God completely, with your whole heart, will be tough when you feel like your heart is broken. But God is a healer. He can take all things and turn them out for your good if you TRUST HIM.

Here is a Print & Pray prayer that might help you focus:


My heart is broken. You saw the relationship I was in. And you can see how much I want to reconcile with (Insert name). I don't understand why our relationship fell apart, God. All that's left in me is brokenness.

But Lord, You are so awesome that I know You have a plan for me and my life. I know You've chosen someone for me that will make me happier than I could ever dream.

Lord, I trust You. I believe Your Word. My prayer request is that You'll take my broken heart and fill it with Your love. I know I can count on You to never leave nor forsake me. I know that right now, Your grace is enough to sustain me.

I will go where You lead me, Lord. Show me where I can make a difference in someone's life. Show me how I can be a blessing. I know that if I focus on others, that You'll heal my heart and emotions.

Thank You for loving and caring about me, Lord. Thank you for showing me how to love. And thank You for hearing my prayers. I ask all things in Jesus' name. AMEN!

Happy people don't have the best things, they make the best with what they have.

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Default  Posted: 5:50 PM, October 25th (Sunday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hope its OK for me to post this here.
During the sermon at church today the priest talked about a very old prayer that I found very comforting. Its supposed to be repeated over and over, almost like a mantra, and I find if you split it into 4 parts, it goes nicely with deep breathing.

Lord Jesus Christ
Only Son of God
Have Mercy On Me
A Sinner

I am going to write it down and tape it next to the act of contrition (which I say every night) in my journal and use it to breath deep, and maybe sleep a little better.

Me: Forgiven WW (40's)
He: BH (40's)
DDay 05/01/09 - see profile for details.
Kids - DD & DS
Working on R
Character: Its what you do when no one is looking.

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Default  Posted: 7:33 PM, November 1st (Sunday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so grateful to you Lord for all you have done, all you are doing and all you will do through this horrible situation we are facing. Thank you that we don't have to go through it alone, that you are there with us every step of the journey. Thank you that you are helping us to take each step that needs to be taking and help us to not skip over any. Thank you for shining your light and getting to the root of the issue(s) we are facing. Thank you for being the anchor to our soul when the storms surround us and thank you that in you is we can find peace when chaos seems to encompasses us. Thank you for the healing and restoration that you offer and desire for each of us. THANK YOU!

BS: 45 me
FWS: 47
Married 25 years
DDay: October 7, 09

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Default  Posted: 6:50 PM, November 6th (Friday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What a beautiful prayer Hurting100...from your words to God's ear...and heart.

And may the Lord show you the wisdom and understanding needed to be your own champion so that you can live well and whole to be his champion.

God Bless.

Innocent people generally want to get to the bottom of things. Guilty people usually want the discussion to be over as soon as possible.

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Default  Posted: 1:09 AM, November 27th (Friday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I heard this Kutless song and I want to still raise my hands to the Lord through this.

If You washed away my vanity
If You took away my words
If all my world was swept away
Would You be enough for me?
Would my beating heart still sing?

If I lost it all
Would my hands stay lifted
To the God who gives and takes away

If You take it all
This life You've given
Still my heart will sing to You

When my life is not what I expected
The plans I made have failed
When there's nothing left to steal me away
Will You be enough for me?
Will my broken heart still sing?

If I lost it all
Would my hands stay lifted
To the God who gives
And takes away

If You take it all
This life You've given
Still my heart
Will sing to You

Even if You take it all away
Youll never let me go
Take it all away
But I still know

That I'm Yours
I'm still Yours

Oh, I'm Yours
I'm still Yours
I'm still Yours

D-day #1 3/2/09
Separated off and on until 12/31/09 when A ended, WH moved home and NC started
Trying to R...I can tell he is starting to "get it."
I left 2/10 and he filed for D 6/10. Only a few more days until it is

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Default  Posted: 6:40 PM, December 8th (Tuesday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I haven't posted for a while on SI (as I spend most of my time on the Divided Heart board), but I do come and read.

I just wanted to let you all know that you are all in my heart and I pray that God give you all strength and courage and embrace you in His love and comfort.


Me - BS, 58 (I'm Katie)
Him - WS, 60
Friends since 1965, together since 1968, married in 1972
3 adult children
LTA - EA/PA/EA 1993(?)-2000
OW: Obsessed with H since 1965, continues "friendship" with MIL
D-Day: H told me May 2006

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Default  Posted: 4:01 PM, December 10th (Thursday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm surprised to find myself in this forum. I went to church as a child, but then stopped during college. Then I met my wife who is offended by the whole notion of Christianity. So it's been a long, long time.

I never really fully stopped believing; I guess I've been an agnostic all these years.

Now I kind of need to believe, at least a little. I need to feel the warmth of an embrace from God so badly.

[This message edited by OnceInALifetime at 4:02 PM, December 10th (Thursday)]

BH, now divorced

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Default  Posted: 4:27 PM, December 11th (Friday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Well, I guess prayers work.

I got that job, so I will be starting after the new year.

I'm happy about that even though he will be helping financially. I'm starting to feel better.

Thanks. :)

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Default  Posted: 12:00 PM, December 12th (Saturday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Just know that although you have been away in your heart, you were never gone from the heart of God. He always remembered you.

May the love of God enter your heart and hold you softly during this awful challenge and trial in your life.

Humans fail themselves and us. God never fails us.


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Default  Posted: 7:36 AM, December 14th (Monday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Thank you.

BH, now divorced

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Default  Posted: 8:33 PM, December 20th (Sunday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I had no idea this prayer thread existed. I am so grateful to find it.

I am in need of prayers. H fell off of the wagon. He was in an accident on private property with a corporate vehicle. His job is at stake. Fortunately the property owner let us pay for any damages and didn't involve insurance. H would have certainly lost his job then.

He has finally admitted that he not only has a drinking problem, but that he needs help. I'm afraid to get my hopes up. We had to empty our bank account to pay for the damages. I have no idea how I will pay the bulk of this month's bills.

Please keep us in your prayers (and I'll be happy to pray for all of you). We need a Christmas miracle more than anything right now...

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Default  Posted: 12:16 PM, December 24th (Thursday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I need to get this off of me. I was an OM with an MOW. The way it ended caused me to leave my church. I was on the edge of going because, even though it did have some very good people, I was really never accepted. I have decided to take a break from going for a while because church right now is a trigger and my previous two churches have not worked out very well. I am also ashamed to show my face before God because of what I have done. The affair ended in September and I have had NC since then and have been working on myself with IC and research on why I did what I did. I really need some prayer to help me regain my relationship to God. I know I will never be "good enough" but I just want to be in fight right now.

It's not what you've got it's what you give. It's not the life you choose it's the life you live.

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Default  Posted: 9:17 PM, December 24th (Thursday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Please pray for me.
I feel so broken hearted over my husband's long term affair.
He has changed so much since d-day. He is being the husband I always wanted....and yet, I cannot get the affair out of my mind. I think about it every day...all the time.
I feel like a loser for taking him back. I think about divorcing him every other day....and then I think I want to remain reconciled.
I need to let go of this and let God lead me ...but, I can't seem to let go of the constant worry, sadness, anxiety.
Thank you for your prayers.

Me- BS
Him- WH
Long term marriage
D-day- Jan. 2007
5 yr. LTA

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Default  Posted: 2:09 PM, December 28th (Monday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am the WS. I am very active in my church. I feel like I was Dr. Jeckyl/Mr. Hyde during the A. Sometimes I don't want to show my face in church or pray. I feel undeserving and unworthy. However, I think it's very important that we continue our relationship with God, no matter how uncomfortable it feels. That probably includes going to church regularly. Here are some words given to me that I am finding helpful:

Salvation and forgiveness come to those who trust God. He can heal your heart. The magnitude of the sin doesn’t minimize the forgiving power of God. Jesus once said, the one who has been forgiven the most loves Him the most. He saves you in spite of your disobedience. God’s forgiveness isn’t predicated on the forgiveness of others – even those you sinned against. Forgiveness means it is no longer in God's mind so let it go from yours as well.

I pray for all of the WSs and BSs out there, as well as all of the people who have been hurt by their actions.

Me - FWW
Dday 7/09
MC began the week of D-Day, but not yet forgiven

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Default  Posted: 2:37 PM, December 28th (Monday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I felt this would help - especially for those of us who seek forgiveness as well as those who are struggling to forgive (when the pastor in our church read and preached from this scripture, I broke down and BH was REALLY moved):

Psalm 51
To the Chief Musician. A Psalm of David when Nathan the prophet went to him, after he had gone in to Bathsheba.
1 Have mercy upon me, O God,
According to Your lovingkindness; According to the multitude of Your tender mercies, Blot out my transgressions.
2 Wash me thoroughly from my iniquity, And cleanse me from my sin.

3 For I acknowledge my transgressions, And my sin is always before me.
4 Against You, You only, have I sinned, And done this evil in Your sight— That You may be found just when You speak,[a] And blameless when You judge.

5 Behold, I was brought forth in iniquity, And in sin my mother conceived me.
6 Behold, You desire truth in the inward parts, And in the hidden part You will make me to know wisdom.

7 Purge me with hyssop, and I shall be clean; Wash me, and I shall be whiter than snow.
8 Make me hear joy and gladness, That the bones You have broken may rejoice.
9 Hide Your face from my sins, And blot out all my iniquities.

10 Create in me a clean heart, O God, And renew a steadfast spirit within me.
11 Do not cast me away from Your presence, And do not take Your Holy Spirit from me.

12 Restore to me the joy of Your salvation, And uphold me by Your generous Spirit.
13 Then I will teach transgressors Your ways, And sinners shall be converted to You.

14 Deliver me from the guilt of bloodshed, O God, The God of my salvation, And my tongue shall sing aloud of Your righteousness.
15 O Lord, open my lips, And my mouth shall show forth Your praise.
16 For You do not desire sacrifice, or else I would give it; You do not delight in burnt offering.
17 The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit, A broken and a contrite heart— These, O God, You will not despise.

And finally - and I feel we ALL need this:

“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.”- Matthew 11:28

[This message edited by MissesJai at 2:38 PM, December 28th (Monday)]

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Default  Posted: 11:21 AM, December 31st (Thursday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have taken a major step and somewhat of a risk in trying to find the truth, after years of trickle truth and continued lies from WH. I'm asking for prayers that the person to whom I threw out the questions would answer them honestly, fully, and upfront.

Me: free of the secrets and lies!!!
Divorced 10/2011

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Default  Posted: 2:28 PM, January 31st (Sunday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am asking for prayer that my WH would see 'the magnitude' of his A and the heartfelt pain he has caused to me and our DS. I feel we cannot truly move forward and to a better future until God puts this in his heart. I also pray for strength and that the Lord will heal us ALL and unite us as a family stronger than we've ever been. I pray that my WH does NOT choose D over truly Rring our M.

I pray for all the brokenhearts and hurting people on S.I. daily.

"Don't you worry your pretty little mind because people throw rocks at things that shine!"
~I guess living in limbo is my "new normal"- stinks!~

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