"In life, unlike chess, the game continues after checkmate." - Asimov
"Be patient and tough; someday this pain will be useful to you." - Ovid
In my case we own the business and OW was given a very high position by my STBXH.
People were always surprised I could work with my husband and sucessfully did for over 12 years, until now of course!
So can he sucessfully work closely with OW now that he is "with" her??
It's kind of funny he pulls the rug out from under his financial person (me) and now is screwing his head of operations.
Doesn't seem like a smart, savy, businessman to me!!
Mine is a FWH who works with FSOW. They do not work closely, however. They cross paths a few times a week (she has stopped sending him psuedo-work related emails), they occasionally have a meeting, that's it. Still, everyone knows. They're both teachers, so the rumor mill has been churning extra hard. And word has made it through that FSOW didn't get her contract renewed so won't be back next year (I get to leave this group in a few short months!). So, more churning. The other teachers, administrators (they even had a meeting about it), and students (FSOW was 'confiding' in students 'tell Jekyll that I think he's cute' and "jekyll and I saw a movie this weekend." WTF did she think would happen?) That is so painful. People are either far too nice to me or cold and distant. Ugghh.
No matter how it goes down, workplace affairs suck big time. My daddy always taught me that you 'don't shit where you eat.' Oh well, I guess FWH and FSOW's A was just so special, it would end with rainbows & butterflies, no one would get hurt, and everyone would be happy about their magical connection.
Things have been going pretty well, although he said last night he would be home at 5:30, and it was 6:30 before he got here. argh! I was piissssssssssed. I just calmly told him that when he is late like that, it makes it hard for me, he told me what it was he was doing, and I left it at that.
We are going away this weekend, and I am hoping that we have a good time.
I had an affair once, a long time ago. I am not proud of it, but I did it...and because I have had that experience, I think I am more patient. I actually worked with the guy (dont hit me! ) but my point is this....Once I was done with this guy, I was done. I looked at him and thought, 'how could i have ever thought i would be with him?' and i would never ever be tempted again. My point is, maybe H can be ok, if in his mind it is truly over, he may feel the way that I did. I did, however, stop working there a few months later i think, and so i dont know about future temptations, but i really really doubt that i would have been tempted. The only difference is that this guy was a total loser, did drugs(not around me), couldnt keep a job, so i wouldnt have liked being with him, and the OW doesnt really have any of those glaringly negative qualities...but ...
oh well, just trying to make sense of it all..
Hope you are all doing well.
How could I have lived with a liar and not known...
Her latest trick to bypass NC - she has coworkers call him on speaker phone while she's nearby so she can "chime in" and chat. No one knows about the A (wow, hurtbs, can't imagine), so it's all faux friendly there. Not sure how to stop that yet.
H-EA, d-day 1-06
W-PA, d-day 9-05
so both of us are WS & BS
working hard on R
"Sorry is looking backwards, worry is looking around, and faith is looking ahead"
Shelby, I'm so sorry--what a tough situation. Can he identify why he doesn't want to leave until he feels 'better' about you as a couple? Is it because he is afraid he will resent you if he feels 'forced' to leave? Is he keeping her around as a safety net if things don't work out w/ you? Is he trying to prove to himself he is trustworthy? He needs to figure out the why before he gets peace.
I just posted a longwinded comment in Wayward. If any of you all have time to look at it, I'd really appreciate any comments you may have.
Have a good day, all.
What a tough situation.
I wish for your sake he would just make the decision that his M is the best choice.
I checked with DS first before posting here, since Mr Lucky no longer works with her.
But he did for 18 months post d-day, so I am just here to offer any support I can.
-- And yes, that does make you Lucky!
[This message edited by sharim at 2:50 PM, April 4th (Wednesday)]
Hi Lucky! -- So what is the secret to get rid of her?
..... certainly nothing **I** did.....