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User Topic: Dealing With Depression
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Default  Posted: 8:58 PM, April 2nd (Monday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Please post in here if you are struggling with depression or suicidal thoughts.

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click4it
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Default  Posted: 9:56 PM, April 2nd (Monday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

For those of you who are dealing with depression, keep in mind that anti-depressants will help get you over that hump. I didn't want to take them for a long time, but when you are hit with infidelity and separation sometimes, you have no choice.

Be back in a bit to post more later.


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Two boys: 16 and 13
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01

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Default  Posted: 10:01 PM, April 2nd (Monday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was officially diagnosed with depression when I was 16 but I have lived with it from as long as I can remember. I have hit rock bottom a few times but I have also learned to live with. Like many, I have my good days, my bad days,and plenty of awful ones...


Real love is a CHOICE, NOT a feeling...

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Default  Posted: 10:10 PM, April 2nd (Monday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have been depressed with my life, all my life, basically. My first two female role models were both depressed women. Yes, when BP had his affairs, the one with my cousin had me in a depression I have never experienced. Being with alcoholics and beeing depressed also seem to go together. I don't feel depressed now, but I know what it is like.


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him 52

BP=betraying partner


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MUSICMAN
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Default  Posted: 10:14 PM, April 2nd (Monday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I, too, have dealt with depression ....still do at times


Lot of water under the bridge...lot of other stuff too....Bob Dylan

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Default  Posted: 10:29 PM, April 2nd (Monday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I tried to take my life 3 days after my 20th birthday. I was so surprised when I woke up. Even the doctor was surprised I was alive because of the quantity of pills I had taken. Fast forward 30 years and I get the blow of my life. My WH's affair again made me want to die. I was so profoundly sad. I didn't try to take my life this time because it didn't work the first time and I now have 2 grown sons that would be devastated if I had. I am 20 months from Dday and the thoughts of wanting to die are gone. I'm still sad about what happend but the AD's, therapy and a very remorseful WH has helped.


me: BS
Dday 7/23/05
This former rock has been blasted into a mound of pebbles.

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click4it
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Default  Posted: 10:31 PM, April 2nd (Monday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I, too, have struggled with depression for a long long time. I am now taking a class on depression, setting small goal for myself and trying to get over that hump again.

Just like those commercials you see nowadays, depression DOES hurt.


Me: 41
Two boys: 16 and 13
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01

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Default  Posted: 8:54 AM, April 3rd (Tuesday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have only been depressed since DDAY. I still have self destructive thoughts.

I take cymbalta and xanex. I know I am getting better, but I don't always feel like it.

I don't trust what I see or hear. I don't know if its the depression talking or not.


Me(BS):43
Her(WS):37
Married 17
DDay:9/29/06 DDay 2: 12/13/06

"Won't you roll me away tonight
I too am lost, I feel double-crossed. And Im sick of whats wrong and whats right."


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Default  Posted: 8:57 AM, April 3rd (Tuesday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I dealt with it bad after D day for a few years. I finally managed to get off the meds this fall. I still don't feel normal but I'm much better. You can get here. I wrote an article on this for the healing library but not sure if it will be posted or not. I will alert if so.


"I know the pieces fit cuz I watched them fall away
mildewed and smoldering, fundamental differing,
pure intention juxtaposed will set two lovers souls in motion
disintegrating as it goes testing our communication"
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Default  Posted: 1:52 PM, April 3rd (Tuesday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just got on antiDs last Friday.

But why is it such a damn roller coaster? That is what makes it the worst. Feeling fine...then WHAM, your stomach goes into knots, the movies start playing in your head, and you are glad there are no firearms nearby.....


There is never a single right solution. But there are always multiple wrong ones.

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Dead Inside
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Default  Posted: 2:17 PM, April 3rd (Tuesday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Chria: For me it is a minute or two of feeling good, and then you remeber. Your stomach knots up and your heart breaks again.


Me(BS):43
Her(WS):37
Married 17
DDay:9/29/06 DDay 2: 12/13/06

"Won't you roll me away tonight
I too am lost, I feel double-crossed. And Im sick of whats wrong and whats right."


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Default  Posted: 2:29 PM, April 3rd (Tuesday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What are the symptoms of depression?

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Dead Inside
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Default  Posted: 2:33 PM, April 3rd (Tuesday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There are some decent online tests. Google Depression and test. It should bring up something.


Me(BS):43
Her(WS):37
Married 17
DDay:9/29/06 DDay 2: 12/13/06

"Won't you roll me away tonight
I too am lost, I feel double-crossed. And Im sick of whats wrong and whats right."


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Default  Posted: 2:59 PM, April 3rd (Tuesday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It has been proven that exercising helps in dealing with depression.

I find that to be very true.

Oh - and I suffer from double depression.

Chronic and SADD.


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Default  Posted: 3:21 PM, April 3rd (Tuesday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have had bouts of depression since my teens. I didn't realize how bad it could get though.

Here is a good link my husband found somewhere for depression and other disorders linking to depression. It also lists different types of drugs for depression, side effects and a lot of good information:

http://www.depressionforums.org/

MODS if this link is inappropriate please remove.


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Default  Posted: 3:24 PM, April 3rd (Tuesday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Anybody else feel like hurting themselves to get rid of the pain. Cutting, or smashing or anything else that is self destructive?


Me(BS):43
Her(WS):37
Married 17
DDay:9/29/06 DDay 2: 12/13/06

"Won't you roll me away tonight
I too am lost, I feel double-crossed. And Im sick of whats wrong and whats right."


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ToddC
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Default  Posted: 3:27 PM, April 3rd (Tuesday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just took the free depression test at PsychologyToday.com and according to the results, I am depressed. It does not surprise me. I hate the thought of taking AD's but I may need to.

Link to test if anyone interested.

http://psychologytoday.psychtests.com/tests/depression_abridged_access.html


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Default  Posted: 3:47 PM, April 3rd (Tuesday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have never suffered with depression but my dr has put me on ads to get through this difficult time. Lots of people have commented that I seem a lot calmer - I don't know if its the tablets or just acceptance. Until my life is calmer I will continue to take them but I hope it won't be for very long.

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Default  Posted: 5:45 PM, April 3rd (Tuesday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have had it throughout times in my life since I was a teenager..
In the last year I have been battling it..some good some bad days.I'm not the ad type..so its all on me..

Then dday..it was like a tornado...my son is the one keeping me going...
and this forum has helped a lot too...thanks to everyone again.


Me: BS, 28
WH 31
12 yrs marriage, 1 son 9,
Online EA-3+yrs
1stDD: March 2007
2ndDD: January 31, 2009
Attempting R
Umm..yeah

Posts: 538 | Registered: Mar 2007 | From: south of sanity
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Default  Posted: 6:23 PM, April 3rd (Tuesday), 2007View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

DI...
I cut my hand a little over a month and a half ago...to "see how it felt"...well...IT HURT!

Kind of woke me up to not wanting to go further.

Please post here if you are having these thoughts. We are all in this together!


Me: FBS, 34, H: FWS, 34
Married 9/1/02
DDay #1: 10/15/06
2 Amazing Kids, 4 (DS) & 2 (DD) year old.
Worked on R, but Separated 11/07.
"I'll never trust anyone more than I trust myself."

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