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User Topic: Dealing With Depression
weepy
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Default  Posted: 12:43 PM, January 24th (Thursday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My therapist has sent me back to the psychiatrist to have a med check. She thinks I'm not being medicated properly since I'm still so sad and obsessive.

I do NOT want to go on the ones that work on anxiety too but it looks like that's where I'm headed.


Dday: 9/12/05
M: 29 yrs( me anyway )
BS(me): 55 And I'm ok with that
FWS: 57- Multiple PAs, LTA 7? yrs.

Try not. Do or do not, there is no try. -- Yoda


Posts: 9340 | Registered: Nov 2005 | From: SE PA
dreamlife
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Default  Posted: 4:51 PM, January 24th (Thursday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was curious about depression and late afternoons or evenings.

Does it get worse?

I was feeling a bit better last few days but last night I felt that "slide" into that void once more.

I had anxiety, too.

I just cannot handle it when it starts to get dark...maybe this is why I like to take photos of the sunrises?

Anyone else feel this way about depression worsening as the day goes on & it gets *DARK*?


~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~

Posts: 25351 | Registered: Sep 2005
weepy
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Default  Posted: 7:47 AM, January 25th (Friday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

dream, I find my evenings and early mornings the worst times. The quiet, the lack of distractions seems to open up the crack of those despairing feelings.

So my psychiatrist upped the Wellbutrin to 450mg. He seems to think my anxiety is sparked by the depression so he wants to try this for a while before switching things up.

Told H that he upped the meds and no response. Started to tell him why, but he changed the subject.

Wonder if there's still some guilt in there making him avoid the topic of me having to take meds in order to conquer a depression motivated by his cheating?


Dday: 9/12/05
M: 29 yrs( me anyway )
BS(me): 55 And I'm ok with that
FWS: 57- Multiple PAs, LTA 7? yrs.

Try not. Do or do not, there is no try. -- Yoda


Posts: 9340 | Registered: Nov 2005 | From: SE PA
dreamlife
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Default  Posted: 7:54 AM, January 25th (Friday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, sounds like there is some guilt or ...maybe he's just one who can't handle hearing about feelings & emotions, weepy.

I just hate looking out the window at night and seeing total darkness staring back at me.


~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~

Posts: 25351 | Registered: Sep 2005
jjct
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Default  Posted: 8:38 PM, February 1st (Friday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

jumping in...
hello (((everyone)))

A Medical Doctor friend recc. this site:

http://www.nedleyhealthreport.com/

Please MODS remove if inappropriate!
She & I had just a brief chat re my sitch - she is a great person, so I DO value her opinion ...
anyway

I cruised it a bit, and it seems like Dr. Nedley is selling his stuff - but there might be something on there that'll help ?

I took the test (was on the early parts of the thread), and I'm - shew! pretty ok in the depression area.
Thank you Jesus!
but I wanted to put this out for hopefully use....
God Bless you all!


Posts: 6032 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: texas
wantmore
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Default  Posted: 11:37 AM, February 14th (Thursday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm joining this group today. Starting next week I'll be back on ADs. I have to detox a little first.

My depression kind of sneaked up on me and I didn't realize how bad it had gotten until I realized I was avoiding my friends and coulnd't concentrate enough to do my job.

Oddly I have no problem concentrating on SI.


Keep your friends close and your enemies closer. Of course it helps to know you *have* enemies.

Posts: 2887 | Registered: Nov 2004 | From: Florida
no_one
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Default  Posted: 10:32 PM, February 16th (Saturday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

ive had depression for a long time, it became severe after he cheated on me... very debilitating

i take antidepressants and antianxiety but stopped seeing the counselor; or rather the counselor asked me to stop coming since my attendance was so poor , its just so hard for me to get out of my apartment sometimes

the meds really help, but every day is a struggle to survive and live

im constantly fighting the urge to kill myself and fighting to find reasons to live

some days, like today, are much harder than others, i just double up on the antianxiety meds and cry and try to sleep so i wont keep thinking all the bad thoughts

but yeah the meds helped a lot, i became more functional.. i started eating, sleeping, showering, and leaving my bed and apartment thanks to them

today was very difficult tho


im dead inside

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WhyNotMe
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Default  Posted: 11:33 PM, February 16th (Saturday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

no one, I just want to send you a big hug. I can empathize with everything you said.


BW (Me) 37
WH (a**) 40
Together on and off 17 years.
8 years of marital efing bliss
D-Day EA Nov 2006
D-Day PA Jan 11, 2008
Just trying to survive the days.

Posts: 28 | Registered: Feb 2008 | From: Hell
wantmore
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Default  Posted: 3:10 PM, February 17th (Sunday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((no one))), hugs for you.

I'm not so depressed I don't shower, but I confess I don't leave the house unless I really have to. I don't call my family or friends and I can't concentrate on my job or anything.

My daughter & her fiance are coming over for dinner and the place is kind of in a mess. I am attempting to make a cake, I'll see if I forget to make the dinner because of it. It's our birthdays today and tomorrow.

I love her but I'll be glad when this evening is over.

I'll be even gladder next week when I can start taking ADs. I had a 2 glass of wine a day habit I had to give up first.

Any chance the ADs will make me outgoing socially? I really need some new friends.


Keep your friends close and your enemies closer. Of course it helps to know you *have* enemies.

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Kodi
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Default  Posted: 3:22 PM, February 17th (Sunday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just went to the doctors on Friday. I've been on Wellbutrin for years. Now I've started Lexapro. Did Lexapro help anyone else?
I thought I was the only one who hates the dark, I don't drive after dark any more and I feel like I'm caged in.
Evenings are when the panic attacks start.

Posts: 1333 | Registered: Sep 2007
PiQue
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Default  Posted: 4:19 PM, February 17th (Sunday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A
Medical Doctor friend recc. this site:

http://www.nedleyhealthreport.com/

I paid my $10 to take the test, now can't access it and there is only a phone number to call them at. What a bitch.

How did you get into the test?


Me/BW 50+
Him/WH 60+ Long Distance LTA
NEVER ignore your gut.


Posts: 2881 | Registered: Jan 2008 | From: Mid-Atlantic Region
no_one
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Default  Posted: 11:57 PM, February 19th (Tuesday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

thnx


im dead inside

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dreamlife
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Default  Posted: 1:34 AM, February 20th (Wednesday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Whew, its a relief to know I'm not "alone" about that "darkness falls now" thing!

It has been getting a bit better since last week though...

(((((hugs, everyone))))


~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~

Posts: 25351 | Registered: Sep 2005
KGT_123
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Default  Posted: 8:39 PM, February 20th (Wednesday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Kodi - FWH started Lexapro two weeks ago and does not feel any relief from depression yet. I started Cymbalta three weeks ago and felt better within the first week.

I went to my GP because I couldn't concentrate at work and was having a hard time being "present" with my baby girl. I am so thankful the meds kicked in. I definitely feel better and feel as though I can cope with my present situation.

This is so hard.


Me - BW (35)
Him - WH (41)
One Little Peanut - 2 years old
1-21-08: D-Day 1 - OW1
3-5-08: D-Day 2 - OW2
12-5-08: FULL DISCLOSURE from 1&2
4-23-09: Found WH trolling on Ashley Madison
4-29-09: D-Day 3

Posts: 415 | Registered: Jan 2008 | From: NYC / Long Island
KGT_123
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Default  Posted: 8:41 PM, February 20th (Wednesday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

no-one...

Big, big (((hugs))) to you! Is there someone you can reach out to?

We are here if you need us.


Me - BW (35)
Him - WH (41)
One Little Peanut - 2 years old
1-21-08: D-Day 1 - OW1
3-5-08: D-Day 2 - OW2
12-5-08: FULL DISCLOSURE from 1&2
4-23-09: Found WH trolling on Ashley Madison
4-29-09: D-Day 3

Posts: 415 | Registered: Jan 2008 | From: NYC / Long Island
So painful
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Default  Posted: 8:10 AM, February 22nd (Friday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I had my first IC visit yesterday. My official "diagnosis" is extreme anxiety with depression. Wow! Imagine that! What in the world would I have to be anxious or depressed about.

I'm not going the meds route yet. I've never taken stronger than Tylenol and don't know how it will affect me. I really need to be clear headed right now. I'm going to exercise more and try to eat more. I've lost so much weight in the last few weeks.


Me: BS - 57
Him: WH - 59
Status: Uncertain

Posts: 799 | Registered: Feb 2008 | From: Midwest
weepy
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Default  Posted: 8:16 AM, February 22nd (Friday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

sp, I fought taking drugs for 2 years.

But they have made a huge difference in facing every day.


Dday: 9/12/05
M: 29 yrs( me anyway )
BS(me): 55 And I'm ok with that
FWS: 57- Multiple PAs, LTA 7? yrs.

Try not. Do or do not, there is no try. -- Yoda


Posts: 9340 | Registered: Nov 2005 | From: SE PA
Vexia Perplexia
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Default  Posted: 12:18 PM, February 22nd (Friday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm quite positive that I am depressed but I don't want to be on medication as I am a recovering alchoholic/ have and addictive personality.


"I see your brows are full of discontent, your hearts of sorrow and your eyes of tears"
-William Shakespeare

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ladyvorkosigan
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Default  Posted: 12:27 PM, February 22nd (Friday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Anti-depressants are not drugs of abuse. Trust me, if they were, I would've found a way to abuse them. =)


It nagged him, in particular, that none of the girls hed known so far had given him a sense of unalloyed triumph.

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click4it
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Default  Posted: 1:04 PM, February 22nd (Friday), 2008View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Me: 41
Two boys: 16 and 13
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01

Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?


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