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User Topic: Dealing With Depression
Cliche
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Default  Posted: 5:08 PM, May 29th (Friday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((itspjw))


BS - me 55
WS - H 56
DDay 3/28/07 I was 53, H 55)
3 kids 23.21.18
married 31 years
together 30
reconciling....


Posts: 580 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: California
itspjw
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Default  Posted: 6:19 PM, May 29th (Friday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

thanks.


no, I can't take one more step towards you...cuz all that's waiting is regret...

there's just too much that time cannot erase

dday 9/11/08

And the more I know, the less I understand

Because of you...I am afraid...


Posts: 14786 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: Texas
hurts
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Default  Posted: 1:25 PM, June 4th (Thursday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

[This message edited by hurts at 2:24 PM, June 4th (Thursday)]


Sometimes I lie awake at night, and I ask, "Where have I gone wrong?"
Then a voice says to me, "This is going to take more than one night."
--- Charles M. Schulz
SO if I check my pulse, and it is not there, do I get the day off?

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eyes2thehills
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Default  Posted: 4:58 PM, June 4th (Thursday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just started a low dose Zoloft and immediately started gaining weight. Is this a normal side effect? Has anyone been able to avoid this? How so? I don't think I'm eating more. Why does this happen? With depression, the last thing I need is another reason to feel down on myself...

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Default  Posted: 10:16 AM, June 5th (Friday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

eyes,

Yeah, anti-depressants tend to have weight gain as a common side effect. You can sk your Dr if there's something else you can try.


BS me 43 years old
WS her 45 years old
married 14 years, together 20
2 kids
D-day 7/15/05

Posts: 4225 | Registered: Dec 2005 | From: western NY
shockdbyndbelief
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Default  Posted: 2:11 PM, June 5th (Friday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just noticed this thread...my Dday was 8 months ago...I broke up with my ex, but was still living the apt. we had together. I just moved into my own new place a couple of weeks ago, and I feel like it is the day after DDay. Crying every day...

I just doubled my Zoloft dosage...I only have a number of IC sessions left, covered by insurance.

eyes, I did gain weight from the Zoloft...not much, though.

Hugs to all.


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Default  Posted: 9:52 PM, June 5th (Friday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm here its I finally gave in I have been on matinece dosages for depression for a few yrs... well the situation has improved but I am still stuck so saw the physicrist hell I cant even spell tonight I know that isnt right. She is upping my trazadone and wellbutrin and easing me off the xanax completly I dont know what I will do when I get anxious. She came to the conclusion that I am depressed have anxiety and ptsd and I get to see her at least once a week for a while. oh Joy


The minute you settle for less than you deserve you get even less than you settled for.
In the end people turn out to be, who they promised they wouldn't. Maureen Dowd

Its time for ME to be what I always wanted ME to be.


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eyes2thehills
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Default  Posted: 9:57 PM, June 5th (Friday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks for letting me know I'm not alone in the weight gain. What a bummer of a side effect! Has anyone used a different AD that didn't lead to weight gain?

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Default  Posted: 12:18 AM, June 6th (Saturday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I was on Zoloft for 8 years and put on about 20 pounds. After a couple of tries, I'm now on Celexa and Wellbutrin together and it seems to have done the trick! I don't have the same carb and sugar cravings I did...AND I'm able to cry...something I could never do on Zoloft (although infidelity and divorce probably help with that too).


Me 50
Twin boys 15
On our own since 5/21/2009


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Cliche
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Default  Posted: 1:18 AM, June 6th (Saturday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Dghen, one of the side effects of Wellbutrin is anxiety. AD's such as Lexapro, Prozac, celexa, perhaps a few others have been approved to treat anxiety. I was put on celexa to treat both my depression AND anxiety. You might ask your doc if a different AD might work better for you.


BS - me 55
WS - H 56
DDay 3/28/07 I was 53, H 55)
3 kids 23.21.18
married 31 years
together 30
reconciling....


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Default  Posted: 1:04 PM, June 6th (Saturday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When does the depression go away? IC and meds haven't touched it...so I guess it is just time?

Or do I just get to live feeling this way forever? I will forever have to deal with SD, after all...how can I move on?


Me - 37 BW
Him - 50 WX/Sperm Donor
5 beautiful children
Dday 10/29/07 - day after my birthday, 23 days before birth of #5
Too Many False Rs; D final Feb. 09.

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eyes2thehills
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Default  Posted: 10:30 PM, June 6th (Saturday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi Badlyhurting. Are you on ADs? I think it is important that we remember that depression is part of teh grieving cycle. Since grief is not a linear process, we can move in and out of D a few times before we have finally grieved the loss of our M as we knew it. Each time I go through it, it is less intense. I think you can cling to the hope that you will not live feeling this way forever. In the meantime, if you need some help, take the ADs. You deserve it!

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Default  Posted: 11:03 AM, June 7th (Sunday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi Badlyhurting. Are you on ADs?

Meds and IC have never really helped me very much, so no, I am not on ADs.


Me - 37 BW
Him - 50 WX/Sperm Donor
5 beautiful children
Dday 10/29/07 - day after my birthday, 23 days before birth of #5
Too Many False Rs; D final Feb. 09.

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eyes2thehills
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Default  Posted: 11:55 AM, June 7th (Sunday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'd give yourself some time. Your divorce was only finalized a few months ago. That in and of itself is a tramatic event, and when you add in the trauma of infidelity, well...I think you are normal. Have you tried a variety of different ADs? My Dr. said that not all of them will have the same effect. She even went so far as to ask if any of my family members had taken any because they tend to work about the same in certain gene pools.

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badlyhurting
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Default  Posted: 6:50 PM, June 7th (Sunday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have been on ADs, anti-anxieties and even anti-psychotic medications after Dday.

Then I tried to commit suicide.

I am one of those lucky people who medications make suicidal thoughts worse.

I wish I had succeeded most days, even still...and that was a year ago the end of June.

I'm just so sick and tired of feeling this way, but nothing about the situation can be changed. SD committed adultery twice in our marriage, was unremorseful, abandoned us twice...divorced me and hasn't so much as lifted a finger to see my kids in 7 months!

The kids are being hit with the full reality of the divorce and our move now...ask when they will see "daddy" (aka sperm donor)...and best I can tell he has no intention of seeing them at all this summer. Probably won't be until winter break, which means he won't have seen them for over a year.

Two people brought these children into the world! It is supposed to be the responsibility of TWO to raise them.

I love my kids...I hate my life. How do you reconcile that?


Me - 37 BW
Him - 50 WX/Sperm Donor
5 beautiful children
Dday 10/29/07 - day after my birthday, 23 days before birth of #5
Too Many False Rs; D final Feb. 09.

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itspjw
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Default  Posted: 11:42 PM, June 18th (Thursday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm struggling tonight.


no, I can't take one more step towards you...cuz all that's waiting is regret...

there's just too much that time cannot erase

dday 9/11/08

And the more I know, the less I understand

Because of you...I am afraid...


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Default  Posted: 12:37 PM, June 19th (Friday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have been on four different anti-depressants with major side effects.

It has been four years and I am still an emotional wreck.

My doctor just put me on nortriptyline which I hope works. Only a couple of days but no side effects so far.

I am so tired of being depressed. I am a changed person.


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itspjw
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Default  Posted: 12:53 PM, June 22nd (Monday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((((((annb))))))))

sometimes it is hard to find the right meds.

good luck with this new one.


no, I can't take one more step towards you...cuz all that's waiting is regret...

there's just too much that time cannot erase

dday 9/11/08

And the more I know, the less I understand

Because of you...I am afraid...


Posts: 14786 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: Texas
annb
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Default  Posted: 1:56 PM, June 22nd (Monday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Five days on meds, so far no side effects, but I cannot take the full dose yet.

Doctor started me with one dose daily for sevendays and then increase it to two doses. I hope by the time I increase the dose, I will start to feel some of the benefits of the medications.

Plus I'm in menopause hell and cannot take any hormones due to a vascular issue, so I feel as though something is missing in my body. Those damn hormones.

So between the depression and menopause, I'm in pretty bad shape especially when I am idle or at home. For some reason when I am working or out and about, the depression is not as severe.

I don't think I have hardly smiled during the past four years. I cannot imagine feeling this way much longer, I think I'd go insane.


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itspjw
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Default  Posted: 2:10 PM, June 22nd (Monday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

it does take a couple of weeks to feel the effects. give it time. it's good that you haven't had any side affects so far.


no, I can't take one more step towards you...cuz all that's waiting is regret...

there's just too much that time cannot erase

dday 9/11/08

And the more I know, the less I understand

Because of you...I am afraid...


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